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2012年9月6日 星期四

Trendy Child Abuse - Taking Your Kid to a Shrink


When I lived in Philadelphia, I was the only psychologist that a busy pediatrician would ever use to send his little patients. The reason was that my results were dramatic and consistent. The doctor knew that when he referred a child to me, the child would get well.

To this day, if he is still alive, he does not know that I never saw a single one of his patients. They played in the waiting room while I treated the parents. The youngest ones busied themselves with toys, and the teens absorbed themselves in the TV.

The reason I maintain this policy today is simply this: There is no such thing as a disturbed child who does not come from a troubled marriage, an upset parent, or both. Children react to what they are put through at home.

With the very few exceptions in genetics or other biology, children do not suffer from mental illness. They think, feel, and behave as dictated by the conditions they live in or to which they have been exposed.

My premise is not supported by the mental-health profession at large because tradition holds mental illness as some sort of mental state that arises within individuals but without a reason. So psychologists and psychiatrists make some observations, ask a few questions, and then affix a diagnostic label. The psychiatrist begins to prescribe medicine, no matter how long the list of side effects.

Many cannot see that what has always been considered mental illness is a reaction, not a set of symptoms magically emerging from a vacuum. Even attention-deficit hyperactivity disorder (ADHD), the garbage-can diagnosis of school counselors, is a direct result of sensory deprivation in very early childhood. Even the most severe cases can be managed without medication.

ADHD has already been discussed in a previous article, and it is also described in my book. But usually it is a misdiagnosis.

Today, mental-health practitioners are being swarmed by cases of posttraumatic stress disorder (PTSD). Contrary to the foregoing, this painful state is being experienced by children all over the world. But again, even this real pathology is a reaction to craziness in any number of forms.

For example, children are reacting to physical, sexual, and emotional abuse in record numbers. Others are struggling with the trauma of actual war as more and more battles emerge all over the world. As a rule, doctoral programs in psychology concentrate very little on training their students to recognize trauma, let alone how to treat it.

In the United States, the main cause of PTSD is, beyond question, child abuse. The fact is that little kids are being dehumanized by their own parents, by the very people who are supposed to love them.

Some of these parents, potential murderers that they are, actually want their kids to be dead.

One of the main disguises for parents abusing their children is to label the child as being crazy. They take the child to a doctor who, the parents are sure, will not catch on to the reality. In fact, the doctor will reinforce what the child has heard from his parents, that there is something wrong with him. So the victim himself will grow up with the lie that there is something wrong inside his head.

This entire scenario is intensified and fueled by the fact that the little patient will indeed exhibit symptoms. Abuse, being the strongest communication possible, will always produce symptoms. What is not generally understood is that the symptoms are reactions to craziness.

There is not now, nor will there ever be, a normal way to react to craziness. Those who can understand such a statement will readily see that very, very, often, taking your child to a shrink is another form of child abuse, another expression of our debased society.




Father Heyward B. Ewart, Ph.D. is President of St. James the Elder Theological Seminary. Information about the doctoral curriculum in Christian clinical counseling and other programs, plus more information on Fr. Ewart, can be found at the seminary's website, http://stjamestheelderseminary.org
Father Ewart is author of the book "AM I BAD? Recovering from Abuse", published by Loving Healing Press. (lovinghealing.com) His site has links to two podcasts whereby he can be heard on separate topics changing weekly.





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2012年8月31日 星期五

Regenerating the Green Child


One of the strongest motivations for eco-tourism should be the influences it can have on our children. I asked a CEO of one of the top carbon reducing company in the world, what was the best way to change people's behavior and thinking on "going green". His answered saying we have to educate the children. Whether this is taught in the schools or Cub or Girl Scouts, these children will be the shepherds of the future.

In their wide-eyed innocence they will go home and ask, "Mom, we learned about recycling today. Do we do that?" If allowed, they will then either: teach, insist or correct the home behavior. Unfortunately, culture and population growth have been producing a succession of generations with less and less regard for nature. Also, there is less and less nature in many places to be appreciated.

Appreciation comes from being in Nature and the first five years of one's life are vital for brain development. In those early years the brain is deciding which neurons to keep and which to discard... "Use it or loose it" as they say. Do we want our children to have brains that are global and one with the world or segmented into "Lego" or "Barbie" mentality? Toys, kinds of play and exposure are critical.

The early environment that provides a rich-multi-sensory experience allows the brain to develop its integrative capacities....integration and regulation of sensory information. Pleasurable experiences are the catalyst in developing the biological foundation for emotional-social-sexual intelligence. Brain growth is truly experience dependent. A change in your environment equals a change in the brain. Our body evolved in a rich multi-sensory natural environment and expects to be fed rich multi-sensory experiences. Three dimensional experiences enrich the brain's development significantly over a two dimensional symbolic abstract screen (computers and TV).

Today's graduates in terms of social, emotional and imaginative capacities are no match for the graduates of earlier generations. They are sensorially deprived.

I grew up in the tropical jungles of Sumatra, Indonesia. Our typical day was as follows: We got up when we felt like it (usually around 7), had a good healthy breakfast, spent 1 ? hours in our home schooling course, Calvert School out of Maryland, went to the Club pool until lunch time, came home, had a big lunch, and when our parents took a nap around one pm, we kids got together to invent, play and explore. This was our time and we did everything from playing canasta with 12 decks to slipping through the tiger grass outside our home to go down to the stream to find new species of tropical fish to bring home to our fish tank.

In the afternoon our father came home from work and we had tea like the British out in our outdoor teahouse. Then we went for a family game of golf. We did not have television. The clubhouse offered two movies a week, Wednesday night and Saturday. As a large social group we met on those nights at the club house for dinner (we all chipped in) and then watched whichever movie we had been sent. It could have been Hop-a-long Cassidy or Ben Hur. That didn't matter. We were a social entity enjoying and laughing at the craziness or wonder of the movie.

We lived in nature. My father was a rubber planter for Goodyear rubber and our home was surrounded by huge trees covered with orchids and our yard was full of tropical flowers. What are my favorite memories of my childhood? They are not television, recess, my computer or my Ipod. They are my experiences in nature: the pool in the jungle, my little 1 yard square garden my dad helped me grow, my chickens, "Donald" the white duck that followed me around, the tree we climb and held meetings in, the wonder of the new orchid my Dad grew. And yes, even picking leeches off ourselves, trying to avoid snakes, centipedes and other creepy insects, being at awe at the tiger tracks in our backyard banana patch, experiencing thunder and lightening, collecting huge toads in a pond, observing frog eggs hatch into pollywogs, waiting for the chickens to hatch and so on. I remember them all, good, bad, and scary and appreciate each for the lesson it taught. To this day these are my stories.

Our family time consisted of bicycling into the jungle via dirt roads, going with our father to discover a pool laced in the jungle undergrowth, playing golf, building things from scratch, and improvising.

In our modern society, the experiences of nature are vanishing. What can you do? While there are many options from joining nature organizations, green movements, taking a nature break, moving to a nature place, influencing your schools to teach nature curriculums, doing a family nature adventure each weekend, this article is about living in Nature or taking a Nature vacation.

Due to my childhood experience in Sumatra, I found I greatly missed the "green" in my life. I up and sold everything and moved to Costa Rica. I feel in love and mostly with the opportunity to return to be able to relive the moments in my life of my greatest happiness's.

Tres Rios de Coronado on the South Coast is a place that embodies that natural genius of my childhood, a place of natural spirit and spirits. I am an adult now (in years at least) and yet I am back in the wonder of my gardens around my Ecolodge, the sometimes roaring river below me after a heavy rain, the many animal sounds that bless my soul from morning to night, and in fact, all night. We are constantly in wonder as to what bug is making this or that noise. One of my favorites is delving into eco-tours (with the sprit of the young at heart) for that different or unusual flower, fern or plant for my collection. We enjoy walking the beaches and exploring the caves at low tide or snorkeling off Cano Island, one of the best places in the world to snorkel, or surfing in Dominical Beach. This is of course, after a boat ride through 25 miles of the world's third largest mangrove area in the world and seeing the bats on trees, snakes, and caiman on the banks, unusual birds and thick jungles off to the OSA Peninsula side. After the mangroves, there is the experience of crossing the bar from river to ocean and then hoping to see the giant turtles pass the boat as well as pods of dolphins, maybe even a humpback whale. For the braver, jumping into the ocean waters and swimming in the ocean 50 miles off the coast. For those lovers of fresh mountain waters, climbing up one of our numerous rivers (Tres Rios) through boulders to discover as one climbs further and further up, natural river pools and bigger and bigger waterfalls.

The ecotourism in Costa Rica is full of positive activities for children and adults that are available here. There are many more, such as zip-lining through the jungle canopy, river-rafting, ocean fishing, eating and exploring new food in the markets, horseback riding up into the hills or along the beaches, and visiting to open aired fresh produce markets.

We live much off our land as well. Our foods are fresh and whole. We have: pineapples, papaya, guyaba, avocado, cashew, lemon/orange trees, water apple, rambutan, and yucca plants. There are numerous plants that offer us cures for many ailments as well. I have not seen a child in Costa Rica with a runny nose. My worker's son, at age 6 went to the local school for kinder-garden and was never sick the whole year. This is the land of health and longevity.

I have observed several gutsy families who have brought their children to raise them in this environment and decided to home-school them. I am amazed at the intelligence of these children. One of my friend's child who is 11 years old has purchased 10 goats and is learning animal husbandry, simple veterinary skills, how to make goat cheese and simply being responsible. Another couple with two young girls ages 6 and 8 takes her children on endless adventure outings from zip-lining to botanical garden experiences. I observed these two girls and their two American friends who came to visit zipping out away from us full of confidence playing Tarzan over the canopy floor. I pictured the poor child in civilization being hand-held and guarded by their parents for fear of being kidnapped, being run over by a car or whatever else they need to be protected from.

Outdoor activity in other environments has taken a back seat today to television, video games, the computer, and a demanding work schedule. Solution: Change your life and the way you are living it. Get outdoors, travel, camp, explore, create outdoor hobbies, garden and so on. Be one with nature!




Rosemary MacGregor is an enthusiastic promotor of Ecotourism in Costa Rica. She feels small, rural tourism is the key to preserving the eco-system as well as maintaining it at the level of of appreciation for sincere ecotourist Costa Rica. Her interest extends from preserving the archeological findings to training the young and educating the peoples in the rural villages.





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2012年8月30日 星期四

Bedtime Tips For the Child With Sensory Issues


Quality sleep is crucial for quality functioning, and yet we are a sleep-deprived culture. Adults drink coffee and push themselves past their tiredness, while children will naturally push themselves to be more alert and then not be able to calm down. Kids with sensory issues usually have poor self-regulation, meaning they can't easily bring themselves from one state of alertness to another. When tired or feeling lethargic, they will rev up to a hyperactive state and remain there. They may even endanger themselves as they get toward bedtime and become more giddy and unmindful of where their body is in relation to people and objects. Accidents are more likely to happen just before bedtime when kids are getting wired as they are getting tired.

For safety's sake, and to get kids in bed on time to get the necessary amount of sleep, begin the bedtime routine at least 30 minutes before their actual bedtime, if not longer. A few minutes between the announcement that it is time to go to sleep and lights out is not enough time for a sensory child's body to adjust. Turn off the television and DVD early; both are hypnotizing, and the minutes will slip away as he watches "just this last scene" and the next, and the next.

Dim the lights. The bright lighting that is right for playing with toys in the bedroom is too stimulating before bed. Read bedtime stories by lamplight not by the overhead light.

Stick to a routine. Make sure teeth are brushed, bath is over with (note that bathtime at night is too stimulating for some sensory kids), and pajamas are on before settling in to bed. This way, you can avoid a struggle over him having to jump out of bed to brush in front of the sink. Let your child pick a favorite story or nonfiction book. You might also talk about the events of the day in a positive way. For instance, if your child pitched a fit after school because she had to go to the dentist, talk it through and validate her feelings, and have a short discussion on how to make things easier the next time she has an appointment. Help her to go to sleep believing that tomorrow she will do better, with your support.

Think about blocking out background noise. Close doors so she can't hear the television or a conversation going on in another room.Consider using a fan (not necessarily blowing on your child, just "on"), aquarium, white noise machine, soft music, or even a radio turned to static to block out background noise that will keep her awake.

Provide deep pressure input. It may help to massage her limbs, squeezing them gently and then releasing, to calm her body. You can teach her to tighten her muscles, then release them, body part by body part, in order to self-calm any time she needs to go from an alert to calm, or sleeping, state. She may need hugging, pillows pressed against her, or a weighted blanket to help her body to fall asleep. If you want to use a weighted blanket, consult a sensory smart OT about the proper weight and use. Or, use heavy cotton blankets, if they don't make your child too warm.

All of these strategies will help your child with sensory issues relax his system and have an easier time going from an alert to a calm, then asleep, state.

Copyright (c) 2010 Nancy Peske




Nancy Peske is the coauthor of the book Raising a Sensory Smart Child: The Definitive Handbook for Helping Your Child with Sensory Processing Issues. She blogs about parenting kids with SPD and sends out a weekly newsletter of practical tips for parents and professionals who work with children who have sensory processing issues, available via her website http://www.sensorysmartparent.com





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2012年7月30日 星期一

Trendy Child Abuse - Taking Your Kid to a Shrink


When I lived in Philadelphia, I was the only psychologist that a busy pediatrician would ever use to send his little patients. The reason was that my results were dramatic and consistent. The doctor knew that when he referred a child to me, the child would get well.

To this day, if he is still alive, he does not know that I never saw a single one of his patients. They played in the waiting room while I treated the parents. The youngest ones busied themselves with toys, and the teens absorbed themselves in the TV.

The reason I maintain this policy today is simply this: There is no such thing as a disturbed child who does not come from a troubled marriage, an upset parent, or both. Children react to what they are put through at home.

With the very few exceptions in genetics or other biology, children do not suffer from mental illness. They think, feel, and behave as dictated by the conditions they live in or to which they have been exposed.

My premise is not supported by the mental-health profession at large because tradition holds mental illness as some sort of mental state that arises within individuals but without a reason. So psychologists and psychiatrists make some observations, ask a few questions, and then affix a diagnostic label. The psychiatrist begins to prescribe medicine, no matter how long the list of side effects.

Many cannot see that what has always been considered mental illness is a reaction, not a set of symptoms magically emerging from a vacuum. Even attention-deficit hyperactivity disorder (ADHD), the garbage-can diagnosis of school counselors, is a direct result of sensory deprivation in very early childhood. Even the most severe cases can be managed without medication.

ADHD has already been discussed in a previous article, and it is also described in my book. But usually it is a misdiagnosis.

Today, mental-health practitioners are being swarmed by cases of posttraumatic stress disorder (PTSD). Contrary to the foregoing, this painful state is being experienced by children all over the world. But again, even this real pathology is a reaction to craziness in any number of forms.

For example, children are reacting to physical, sexual, and emotional abuse in record numbers. Others are struggling with the trauma of actual war as more and more battles emerge all over the world. As a rule, doctoral programs in psychology concentrate very little on training their students to recognize trauma, let alone how to treat it.

In the United States, the main cause of PTSD is, beyond question, child abuse. The fact is that little kids are being dehumanized by their own parents, by the very people who are supposed to love them.

Some of these parents, potential murderers that they are, actually want their kids to be dead.

One of the main disguises for parents abusing their children is to label the child as being crazy. They take the child to a doctor who, the parents are sure, will not catch on to the reality. In fact, the doctor will reinforce what the child has heard from his parents, that there is something wrong with him. So the victim himself will grow up with the lie that there is something wrong inside his head.

This entire scenario is intensified and fueled by the fact that the little patient will indeed exhibit symptoms. Abuse, being the strongest communication possible, will always produce symptoms. What is not generally understood is that the symptoms are reactions to craziness.

There is not now, nor will there ever be, a normal way to react to craziness. Those who can understand such a statement will readily see that very, very, often, taking your child to a shrink is another form of child abuse, another expression of our debased society.




Father Heyward B. Ewart, Ph.D. is President of St. James the Elder Theological Seminary. Information about the doctoral curriculum in Christian clinical counseling and other programs, plus more information on Fr. Ewart, can be found at the seminary's website, http://stjamestheelderseminary.org
Father Ewart is author of the book "AM I BAD? Recovering from Abuse", published by Loving Healing Press. (lovinghealing.com) His site has links to two podcasts whereby he can be heard on separate topics changing weekly.





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2012年7月13日 星期五

The Positive Factor - Helping Your Child Achieve Greatness, Part II


The first three years of a child's life are very critical years. In their first year, their brain doubles in size and by age three it is twice as active as a mature adult's brain. This is important for parents and caregivers to know because it is during this time frame that brain development is most active which will have a great impact on a child's future.

Relationships play a major role in early childhood education and development which will have lasting affects on the outcome of every child. They will strengthen and build up a child's ability to learn and control their emotions or they will weaken and hinder their ability to learn and control their emotions.

Researchers have discovered that children who have been exposed to neglect, prolong stress and or abusive relationships at an early age have more difficulty coping with life situations. Studies reveal that children raised in this type of environment tend to be antisocial and have behavioral problems. These are the result of deficits in critical areas of brain development. Interesting though, out of the three negative behaviors mentioned above, brief periods of stress during a child's early years, will actually prepare them to understand and deal with stressful situations that they will encounter with the world around them. Although the long term affects of stress, neglect and abuse upon a child under 5 years of age have not been fully realized, studies show in some cases, that intervention programs whose purpose is to reverse problematic behavior have in fact reduced behavioral problems.

The Child Trauma Academy, a non-profit organization devoted to improving the lives of traumatized and maltreated children, released an article entitled, "Altered brain development following global neglect in early childhood" which reveals the negative impact of neglect on the developing brain. Computed Tomography Scan (CT scan) clearly shows a significant difference between a healthy three year old with an average size head and a three year old suffering from severe sensory deprivation neglect. The differences in brain development and size are quite astounding.

Raising a child can be a difficult task at times and parents as well as caregivers will make mistakes, but there is never an excuse for neglect and abuse. Let's face it, a child will scrape a knee, hear their parents or caregivers argue and experience the ups and downs of life, but it is all a process which helps their brain to mature. So be positive, loving and caring, invest all that you can into your children and you will be helping them achieve greatness.




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2012年6月25日 星期一

Bedtime Tips For the Child With Sensory Issues


Quality sleep is crucial for quality functioning, and yet we are a sleep-deprived culture. Adults drink coffee and push themselves past their tiredness, while children will naturally push themselves to be more alert and then not be able to calm down. Kids with sensory issues usually have poor self-regulation, meaning they can't easily bring themselves from one state of alertness to another. When tired or feeling lethargic, they will rev up to a hyperactive state and remain there. They may even endanger themselves as they get toward bedtime and become more giddy and unmindful of where their body is in relation to people and objects. Accidents are more likely to happen just before bedtime when kids are getting wired as they are getting tired.

For safety's sake, and to get kids in bed on time to get the necessary amount of sleep, begin the bedtime routine at least 30 minutes before their actual bedtime, if not longer. A few minutes between the announcement that it is time to go to sleep and lights out is not enough time for a sensory child's body to adjust. Turn off the television and DVD early; both are hypnotizing, and the minutes will slip away as he watches "just this last scene" and the next, and the next.

Dim the lights. The bright lighting that is right for playing with toys in the bedroom is too stimulating before bed. Read bedtime stories by lamplight not by the overhead light.

Stick to a routine. Make sure teeth are brushed, bath is over with (note that bathtime at night is too stimulating for some sensory kids), and pajamas are on before settling in to bed. This way, you can avoid a struggle over him having to jump out of bed to brush in front of the sink. Let your child pick a favorite story or nonfiction book. You might also talk about the events of the day in a positive way. For instance, if your child pitched a fit after school because she had to go to the dentist, talk it through and validate her feelings, and have a short discussion on how to make things easier the next time she has an appointment. Help her to go to sleep believing that tomorrow she will do better, with your support.

Think about blocking out background noise. Close doors so she can't hear the television or a conversation going on in another room.Consider using a fan (not necessarily blowing on your child, just "on"), aquarium, white noise machine, soft music, or even a radio turned to static to block out background noise that will keep her awake.

Provide deep pressure input. It may help to massage her limbs, squeezing them gently and then releasing, to calm her body. You can teach her to tighten her muscles, then release them, body part by body part, in order to self-calm any time she needs to go from an alert to calm, or sleeping, state. She may need hugging, pillows pressed against her, or a weighted blanket to help her body to fall asleep. If you want to use a weighted blanket, consult a sensory smart OT about the proper weight and use. Or, use heavy cotton blankets, if they don't make your child too warm.

All of these strategies will help your child with sensory issues relax his system and have an easier time going from an alert to a calm, then asleep, state.

Copyright (c) 2010 Nancy Peske




Nancy Peske is the coauthor of the book Raising a Sensory Smart Child: The Definitive Handbook for Helping Your Child with Sensory Processing Issues. She blogs about parenting kids with SPD and sends out a weekly newsletter of practical tips for parents and professionals who work with children who have sensory processing issues, available via her website http://www.sensorysmartparent.com





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2012年6月15日 星期五

Regenerating the Green Child


One of the strongest motivations for eco-tourism should be the influences it can have on our children. I asked a CEO of one of the top carbon reducing company in the world, what was the best way to change people's behavior and thinking on "going green". His answered saying we have to educate the children. Whether this is taught in the schools or Cub or Girl Scouts, these children will be the shepherds of the future.

In their wide-eyed innocence they will go home and ask, "Mom, we learned about recycling today. Do we do that?" If allowed, they will then either: teach, insist or correct the home behavior. Unfortunately, culture and population growth have been producing a succession of generations with less and less regard for nature. Also, there is less and less nature in many places to be appreciated.

Appreciation comes from being in Nature and the first five years of one's life are vital for brain development. In those early years the brain is deciding which neurons to keep and which to discard... "Use it or loose it" as they say. Do we want our children to have brains that are global and one with the world or segmented into "Lego" or "Barbie" mentality? Toys, kinds of play and exposure are critical.

The early environment that provides a rich-multi-sensory experience allows the brain to develop its integrative capacities....integration and regulation of sensory information. Pleasurable experiences are the catalyst in developing the biological foundation for emotional-social-sexual intelligence. Brain growth is truly experience dependent. A change in your environment equals a change in the brain. Our body evolved in a rich multi-sensory natural environment and expects to be fed rich multi-sensory experiences. Three dimensional experiences enrich the brain's development significantly over a two dimensional symbolic abstract screen (computers and TV).

Today's graduates in terms of social, emotional and imaginative capacities are no match for the graduates of earlier generations. They are sensorially deprived.

I grew up in the tropical jungles of Sumatra, Indonesia. Our typical day was as follows: We got up when we felt like it (usually around 7), had a good healthy breakfast, spent 1 ? hours in our home schooling course, Calvert School out of Maryland, went to the Club pool until lunch time, came home, had a big lunch, and when our parents took a nap around one pm, we kids got together to invent, play and explore. This was our time and we did everything from playing canasta with 12 decks to slipping through the tiger grass outside our home to go down to the stream to find new species of tropical fish to bring home to our fish tank.

In the afternoon our father came home from work and we had tea like the British out in our outdoor teahouse. Then we went for a family game of golf. We did not have television. The clubhouse offered two movies a week, Wednesday night and Saturday. As a large social group we met on those nights at the club house for dinner (we all chipped in) and then watched whichever movie we had been sent. It could have been Hop-a-long Cassidy or Ben Hur. That didn't matter. We were a social entity enjoying and laughing at the craziness or wonder of the movie.

We lived in nature. My father was a rubber planter for Goodyear rubber and our home was surrounded by huge trees covered with orchids and our yard was full of tropical flowers. What are my favorite memories of my childhood? They are not television, recess, my computer or my Ipod. They are my experiences in nature: the pool in the jungle, my little 1 yard square garden my dad helped me grow, my chickens, "Donald" the white duck that followed me around, the tree we climb and held meetings in, the wonder of the new orchid my Dad grew. And yes, even picking leeches off ourselves, trying to avoid snakes, centipedes and other creepy insects, being at awe at the tiger tracks in our backyard banana patch, experiencing thunder and lightening, collecting huge toads in a pond, observing frog eggs hatch into pollywogs, waiting for the chickens to hatch and so on. I remember them all, good, bad, and scary and appreciate each for the lesson it taught. To this day these are my stories.

Our family time consisted of bicycling into the jungle via dirt roads, going with our father to discover a pool laced in the jungle undergrowth, playing golf, building things from scratch, and improvising.

In our modern society, the experiences of nature are vanishing. What can you do? While there are many options from joining nature organizations, green movements, taking a nature break, moving to a nature place, influencing your schools to teach nature curriculums, doing a family nature adventure each weekend, this article is about living in Nature or taking a Nature vacation.

Due to my childhood experience in Sumatra, I found I greatly missed the "green" in my life. I up and sold everything and moved to Costa Rica. I feel in love and mostly with the opportunity to return to be able to relive the moments in my life of my greatest happiness's.

Tres Rios de Coronado on the South Coast is a place that embodies that natural genius of my childhood, a place of natural spirit and spirits. I am an adult now (in years at least) and yet I am back in the wonder of my gardens around my Ecolodge, the sometimes roaring river below me after a heavy rain, the many animal sounds that bless my soul from morning to night, and in fact, all night. We are constantly in wonder as to what bug is making this or that noise. One of my favorites is delving into eco-tours (with the sprit of the young at heart) for that different or unusual flower, fern or plant for my collection. We enjoy walking the beaches and exploring the caves at low tide or snorkeling off Cano Island, one of the best places in the world to snorkel, or surfing in Dominical Beach. This is of course, after a boat ride through 25 miles of the world's third largest mangrove area in the world and seeing the bats on trees, snakes, and caiman on the banks, unusual birds and thick jungles off to the OSA Peninsula side. After the mangroves, there is the experience of crossing the bar from river to ocean and then hoping to see the giant turtles pass the boat as well as pods of dolphins, maybe even a humpback whale. For the braver, jumping into the ocean waters and swimming in the ocean 50 miles off the coast. For those lovers of fresh mountain waters, climbing up one of our numerous rivers (Tres Rios) through boulders to discover as one climbs further and further up, natural river pools and bigger and bigger waterfalls.

The ecotourism in Costa Rica is full of positive activities for children and adults that are available here. There are many more, such as zip-lining through the jungle canopy, river-rafting, ocean fishing, eating and exploring new food in the markets, horseback riding up into the hills or along the beaches, and visiting to open aired fresh produce markets.

We live much off our land as well. Our foods are fresh and whole. We have: pineapples, papaya, guyaba, avocado, cashew, lemon/orange trees, water apple, rambutan, and yucca plants. There are numerous plants that offer us cures for many ailments as well. I have not seen a child in Costa Rica with a runny nose. My worker's son, at age 6 went to the local school for kinder-garden and was never sick the whole year. This is the land of health and longevity.

I have observed several gutsy families who have brought their children to raise them in this environment and decided to home-school them. I am amazed at the intelligence of these children. One of my friend's child who is 11 years old has purchased 10 goats and is learning animal husbandry, simple veterinary skills, how to make goat cheese and simply being responsible. Another couple with two young girls ages 6 and 8 takes her children on endless adventure outings from zip-lining to botanical garden experiences. I observed these two girls and their two American friends who came to visit zipping out away from us full of confidence playing Tarzan over the canopy floor. I pictured the poor child in civilization being hand-held and guarded by their parents for fear of being kidnapped, being run over by a car or whatever else they need to be protected from.

Outdoor activity in other environments has taken a back seat today to television, video games, the computer, and a demanding work schedule. Solution: Change your life and the way you are living it. Get outdoors, travel, camp, explore, create outdoor hobbies, garden and so on. Be one with nature!




Rosemary MacGregor is an enthusiastic promotor of Ecotourism in Costa Rica. She feels small, rural tourism is the key to preserving the eco-system as well as maintaining it at the level of of appreciation for sincere ecotourist Costa Rica. Her interest extends from preserving the archeological findings to training the young and educating the peoples in the rural villages.





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2012年6月2日 星期六

Bedtime Tips For the Child With Sensory Issues


Quality sleep is crucial for quality functioning, and yet we are a sleep-deprived culture. Adults drink coffee and push themselves past their tiredness, while children will naturally push themselves to be more alert and then not be able to calm down. Kids with sensory issues usually have poor self-regulation, meaning they can't easily bring themselves from one state of alertness to another. When tired or feeling lethargic, they will rev up to a hyperactive state and remain there. They may even endanger themselves as they get toward bedtime and become more giddy and unmindful of where their body is in relation to people and objects. Accidents are more likely to happen just before bedtime when kids are getting wired as they are getting tired.

For safety's sake, and to get kids in bed on time to get the necessary amount of sleep, begin the bedtime routine at least 30 minutes before their actual bedtime, if not longer. A few minutes between the announcement that it is time to go to sleep and lights out is not enough time for a sensory child's body to adjust. Turn off the television and DVD early; both are hypnotizing, and the minutes will slip away as he watches "just this last scene" and the next, and the next.

Dim the lights. The bright lighting that is right for playing with toys in the bedroom is too stimulating before bed. Read bedtime stories by lamplight not by the overhead light.

Stick to a routine. Make sure teeth are brushed, bath is over with (note that bathtime at night is too stimulating for some sensory kids), and pajamas are on before settling in to bed. This way, you can avoid a struggle over him having to jump out of bed to brush in front of the sink. Let your child pick a favorite story or nonfiction book. You might also talk about the events of the day in a positive way. For instance, if your child pitched a fit after school because she had to go to the dentist, talk it through and validate her feelings, and have a short discussion on how to make things easier the next time she has an appointment. Help her to go to sleep believing that tomorrow she will do better, with your support.

Think about blocking out background noise. Close doors so she can't hear the television or a conversation going on in another room.Consider using a fan (not necessarily blowing on your child, just "on"), aquarium, white noise machine, soft music, or even a radio turned to static to block out background noise that will keep her awake.

Provide deep pressure input. It may help to massage her limbs, squeezing them gently and then releasing, to calm her body. You can teach her to tighten her muscles, then release them, body part by body part, in order to self-calm any time she needs to go from an alert to calm, or sleeping, state. She may need hugging, pillows pressed against her, or a weighted blanket to help her body to fall asleep. If you want to use a weighted blanket, consult a sensory smart OT about the proper weight and use. Or, use heavy cotton blankets, if they don't make your child too warm.

All of these strategies will help your child with sensory issues relax his system and have an easier time going from an alert to a calm, then asleep, state.

Copyright (c) 2010 Nancy Peske




Nancy Peske is the coauthor of the book Raising a Sensory Smart Child: The Definitive Handbook for Helping Your Child with Sensory Processing Issues. She blogs about parenting kids with SPD and sends out a weekly newsletter of practical tips for parents and professionals who work with children who have sensory processing issues, available via her website http://www.sensorysmartparent.com





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2012年5月30日 星期三

Regenerating the Green Child


One of the strongest motivations for eco-tourism should be the influences it can have on our children. I asked a CEO of one of the top carbon reducing company in the world, what was the best way to change people's behavior and thinking on "going green". His answered saying we have to educate the children. Whether this is taught in the schools or Cub or Girl Scouts, these children will be the shepherds of the future.

In their wide-eyed innocence they will go home and ask, "Mom, we learned about recycling today. Do we do that?" If allowed, they will then either: teach, insist or correct the home behavior. Unfortunately, culture and population growth have been producing a succession of generations with less and less regard for nature. Also, there is less and less nature in many places to be appreciated.

Appreciation comes from being in Nature and the first five years of one's life are vital for brain development. In those early years the brain is deciding which neurons to keep and which to discard... "Use it or loose it" as they say. Do we want our children to have brains that are global and one with the world or segmented into "Lego" or "Barbie" mentality? Toys, kinds of play and exposure are critical.

The early environment that provides a rich-multi-sensory experience allows the brain to develop its integrative capacities....integration and regulation of sensory information. Pleasurable experiences are the catalyst in developing the biological foundation for emotional-social-sexual intelligence. Brain growth is truly experience dependent. A change in your environment equals a change in the brain. Our body evolved in a rich multi-sensory natural environment and expects to be fed rich multi-sensory experiences. Three dimensional experiences enrich the brain's development significantly over a two dimensional symbolic abstract screen (computers and TV).

Today's graduates in terms of social, emotional and imaginative capacities are no match for the graduates of earlier generations. They are sensorially deprived.

I grew up in the tropical jungles of Sumatra, Indonesia. Our typical day was as follows: We got up when we felt like it (usually around 7), had a good healthy breakfast, spent 1 ? hours in our home schooling course, Calvert School out of Maryland, went to the Club pool until lunch time, came home, had a big lunch, and when our parents took a nap around one pm, we kids got together to invent, play and explore. This was our time and we did everything from playing canasta with 12 decks to slipping through the tiger grass outside our home to go down to the stream to find new species of tropical fish to bring home to our fish tank.

In the afternoon our father came home from work and we had tea like the British out in our outdoor teahouse. Then we went for a family game of golf. We did not have television. The clubhouse offered two movies a week, Wednesday night and Saturday. As a large social group we met on those nights at the club house for dinner (we all chipped in) and then watched whichever movie we had been sent. It could have been Hop-a-long Cassidy or Ben Hur. That didn't matter. We were a social entity enjoying and laughing at the craziness or wonder of the movie.

We lived in nature. My father was a rubber planter for Goodyear rubber and our home was surrounded by huge trees covered with orchids and our yard was full of tropical flowers. What are my favorite memories of my childhood? They are not television, recess, my computer or my Ipod. They are my experiences in nature: the pool in the jungle, my little 1 yard square garden my dad helped me grow, my chickens, "Donald" the white duck that followed me around, the tree we climb and held meetings in, the wonder of the new orchid my Dad grew. And yes, even picking leeches off ourselves, trying to avoid snakes, centipedes and other creepy insects, being at awe at the tiger tracks in our backyard banana patch, experiencing thunder and lightening, collecting huge toads in a pond, observing frog eggs hatch into pollywogs, waiting for the chickens to hatch and so on. I remember them all, good, bad, and scary and appreciate each for the lesson it taught. To this day these are my stories.

Our family time consisted of bicycling into the jungle via dirt roads, going with our father to discover a pool laced in the jungle undergrowth, playing golf, building things from scratch, and improvising.

In our modern society, the experiences of nature are vanishing. What can you do? While there are many options from joining nature organizations, green movements, taking a nature break, moving to a nature place, influencing your schools to teach nature curriculums, doing a family nature adventure each weekend, this article is about living in Nature or taking a Nature vacation.

Due to my childhood experience in Sumatra, I found I greatly missed the "green" in my life. I up and sold everything and moved to Costa Rica. I feel in love and mostly with the opportunity to return to be able to relive the moments in my life of my greatest happiness's.

Tres Rios de Coronado on the South Coast is a place that embodies that natural genius of my childhood, a place of natural spirit and spirits. I am an adult now (in years at least) and yet I am back in the wonder of my gardens around my Ecolodge, the sometimes roaring river below me after a heavy rain, the many animal sounds that bless my soul from morning to night, and in fact, all night. We are constantly in wonder as to what bug is making this or that noise. One of my favorites is delving into eco-tours (with the sprit of the young at heart) for that different or unusual flower, fern or plant for my collection. We enjoy walking the beaches and exploring the caves at low tide or snorkeling off Cano Island, one of the best places in the world to snorkel, or surfing in Dominical Beach. This is of course, after a boat ride through 25 miles of the world's third largest mangrove area in the world and seeing the bats on trees, snakes, and caiman on the banks, unusual birds and thick jungles off to the OSA Peninsula side. After the mangroves, there is the experience of crossing the bar from river to ocean and then hoping to see the giant turtles pass the boat as well as pods of dolphins, maybe even a humpback whale. For the braver, jumping into the ocean waters and swimming in the ocean 50 miles off the coast. For those lovers of fresh mountain waters, climbing up one of our numerous rivers (Tres Rios) through boulders to discover as one climbs further and further up, natural river pools and bigger and bigger waterfalls.

The ecotourism in Costa Rica is full of positive activities for children and adults that are available here. There are many more, such as zip-lining through the jungle canopy, river-rafting, ocean fishing, eating and exploring new food in the markets, horseback riding up into the hills or along the beaches, and visiting to open aired fresh produce markets.

We live much off our land as well. Our foods are fresh and whole. We have: pineapples, papaya, guyaba, avocado, cashew, lemon/orange trees, water apple, rambutan, and yucca plants. There are numerous plants that offer us cures for many ailments as well. I have not seen a child in Costa Rica with a runny nose. My worker's son, at age 6 went to the local school for kinder-garden and was never sick the whole year. This is the land of health and longevity.

I have observed several gutsy families who have brought their children to raise them in this environment and decided to home-school them. I am amazed at the intelligence of these children. One of my friend's child who is 11 years old has purchased 10 goats and is learning animal husbandry, simple veterinary skills, how to make goat cheese and simply being responsible. Another couple with two young girls ages 6 and 8 takes her children on endless adventure outings from zip-lining to botanical garden experiences. I observed these two girls and their two American friends who came to visit zipping out away from us full of confidence playing Tarzan over the canopy floor. I pictured the poor child in civilization being hand-held and guarded by their parents for fear of being kidnapped, being run over by a car or whatever else they need to be protected from.

Outdoor activity in other environments has taken a back seat today to television, video games, the computer, and a demanding work schedule. Solution: Change your life and the way you are living it. Get outdoors, travel, camp, explore, create outdoor hobbies, garden and so on. Be one with nature!




Rosemary MacGregor is an enthusiastic promotor of Ecotourism in Costa Rica. She feels small, rural tourism is the key to preserving the eco-system as well as maintaining it at the level of of appreciation for sincere ecotourist Costa Rica. Her interest extends from preserving the archeological findings to training the young and educating the peoples in the rural villages.





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2012年2月10日 星期五

The Impact of Technology on the Developing Child


Reminiscing about the good old days when we were growing up is a memory trip well worth taking, when trying to understand the issues facing the children of today. A mere 20 years ago, children used to play outside all day, riding bikes, playing sports and building forts. Masters of imaginary games, children of the past created their own form of play that didn't require costly equipment or parental supervision. Children of the past moved... a lot, and their sensory world was nature based and simple. In the past, family time was often spent doing chores, and children had expectations to meet on a daily basis. The dining room table was a central place where families came together to eat and talk about their day, and after dinner became the center for baking, crafts and homework.

Today's families are different. Technology's impact on the 21st century family is fracturing its very foundation, and causing a disintegration of core values that long ago were what held families together. Juggling work, home and community lives, parents now rely heavily on communication, information and transportation technology to make their lives faster and more efficient. Entertainment technology (TV, internet, videogames, iPods) has advanced so rapidly, that families have scarcely noticed the significant impact and changes to their family structure and lifestyles. A 2010 Kaiser Foundation study showed that elementary aged children use on average 8 hours per day of entertainment technology, 75% of these children have TV's in their bedrooms, and 50% of North American homes have the TV on all day. Add emails, cell phones, internet surfing, and chat lines, and we begin to see the pervasive aspects of technology on our home lives and family milieu. Gone is dining room table conversation, replaced by the "big screen" and take out. Children now rely on technology for the majority of their play, grossly limiting challenges to their creativity and imaginations, as well as limiting necessary challenges to their bodies to achieve optimal sensory and motor development. Sedentary bodies bombarded with chaotic sensory stimulation, are resulting in delays in attaining child developmental milestones, with subsequent impact on basic foundation skills for achieving literacy. Hard wired for high speed, today's young are entering school struggling with self regulation and attention skills necessary for learning, eventually becoming significant behavior management problems for teachers in the classroom.

So what is the impact of technology on the developing child? Children's developing sensory and motor systems have biologically not evolved to accommodate this sedentary, yet frenzied and chaotic nature of today's technology. The impact of rapidly advancing technology on the developing child has seen an increase of physical, psychological and behavior disorders that the health and education systems are just beginning to detect, much less understand. Child obesity and diabetes are now national epidemics in both Canada and the US. Diagnoses of ADHD, autism, coordination disorder, sensory processing disorder, anxiety, depression, and sleep disorders can be causally linked to technology overuse, and are increasing at an alarming rate. An urgent closer look at the critical factors for meeting developmental milestones, and the subsequent impact of technology on those factors, would assist parents, teachers and health professionals to better understand the complexities of this issue, and help create effective strategies to reduce technology use. The three critical factors for healthy physical and psychological child development are movement, touch and connection to other humans. Movement, touch and connection are forms of essential sensory input that are integral for the eventual development of a child's motor and attachment systems. When movement, touch and connection are deprived, devastating consequences occur.

Young children require 3-4 hours per day of active rough and tumble play to achieve adequate sensory stimulation to their vestibular, proprioceptive and tactile systems for normal development. The critical period for attachment development is 0-7 months, where the infant-parent bond is best facilitated by close contact with the primary parent, and lots of eye contact. These types of sensory inputs ensure normal development of posture, bilateral coordination, optimal arousal states and self regulation necessary for achieving foundation skills for eventual school entry. Infants with low tone, toddlers failing to reach motor milestones, and children who are unable to pay attention or achieve basic foundation skills for literacy, are frequent visitors to pediatric physiotherapy and occupational therapy clinics. The use of safety restraint devices such as infant bucket seats and toddler carrying packs and strollers, have further limited movement, touch and connection, as have TV and videogame overuse. Many of today's parents perceive outdoor play is 'unsafe', further limiting essential developmental components usually attained in outdoor rough and tumble play. Dr. Ashley Montagu, who has extensively studied the developing tactile sensory system, reports that when infants are deprived of human connection and touch, they fail to thrive and many eventually die. Dr. Montagu states that touch deprived infants develop into toddlers who exhibit excessive agitation and anxiety, and may become depressed by early childhood.

As children are connecting more and more to technology, society is seeing a disconnect from themselves, others and nature. As little children develop and form their identities, they often are incapable of discerning whether they are the "killing machine" seen on TV and in videogames, or just a shy and lonely little kid in need of a friend. TV and videogame addiction is causing an irreversible worldwide epidemic of mental and physical health disorders, yet we all find excuses to continue. Where 100 years ago we needed to move to survive, we are now under the assumption we need technology to survive. The catch is that technology is killing what we love the most...connection with other human beings. The critical period for attachment formation is 0 - 7 months of age. Attachment or connection is the formation of a primary bond between the developing infant and parent, and is integral to that developing child's sense of security and safety. Healthy attachment formation results in a happy and calm child. Disruption or neglect of primary attachment results in an anxious and agitated child. Family over use of technology is gravely affecting not only early attachment formation, but also impacting negatively on child psychological and behavioral health.

Further analysis of the impact of technology on the developing child indicates that while the vestibular, proprioceptive, tactile and attachment systems are under stimulated, the visual and auditory sensory systems are in "overload". This sensory imbalance creates huge problems in overall neurological development, as the brain's anatomy, chemistry and pathways become permanently altered and impaired. Young children who are exposed to violence through TV and videogames are in a high state of adrenalin and stress, as the body does not know that what they are watching is not real. Children who overuse technology report persistent body sensations of overall "shaking", increased breathing and heart rate, and a general state of "unease". This can best be described as a persistent hypervigalent sensory system, still "on alert" for the oncoming assault from videogame characters. While the long term effects of this chronic state of stress in the developing child are unknown, we do know that chronic stress in adults results in a weakened immune system and a variety of serious diseases and disorders. Prolonged visual fixation on a fixed distance, two dimensional screen grossly limits ocular development necessary for eventual printing and reading. Consider the difference between visual location on a variety of different shaped and sized objects in the near and far distance (such as practiced in outdoor play), as opposed to looking at a fixed distance glowing screen. This rapid intensity, frequency and duration of visual and auditory stimulation results in a "hard wiring" of the child's sensory system for high speed, with subsequent devastating effects on a child's ability to imagine, attend and focus on academic tasks. Dr. Dimitri Christakis found that each hour of TV watched daily between the ages of 0 and 7 years equated to a 10% increase in attention problems by age seven years.

In 2001 the American Academy of Pediatrics issued a policy statement recommending that children less than two years of age should not use any technology, yet toddlers 0 to 2 years of age average 2.2 hours of TV per day. The Academy further recommended that children older than two should restrict usage to one hour per day if they have any physical, psychological or behavioral problems, and two hours per day maximum if they don't, yet parents of elementary children are allowing 8 hours per day. France has gone so far as to eliminate all "baby TV" due to the detrimental effects on child development. How can parents continue to live in a world where they know what is bad for their children, yet do nothing to help them? It appears that today's families have been pulled into the "Virtual Reality Dream", where everyone believes that life is something that requires an escape. The immediate gratification received from ongoing use of TV, videogame and internet technology, has replaced the desire for human connection.

It's important to come together as parents, teachers and therapists to help society "wake up" and see the devastating effects technology is having not only on our child's physical, psychological and behavioral health, but also on their ability to learn and sustain personal and family relationships. While technology is a train that will continually move forward, knowledge regarding its detrimental effects, and action taken toward balancing the use of technology with exercise and family time, will work toward sustaining our children, as well as saving our world. While no one can argue the benefits of advanced technology in today's world, connection to these devices may have resulted in a disconnection from what society should value most, children. Rather than hugging, playing, rough housing, and conversing with children, parents are increasingly resorting to providing their children with more videogames, TV's in the car, and the latest iPods and cell phone devices, creating a deep and widening chasm between parent and child.

Cris Rowan, pediatric occupational therapist and child development expert has developed a concept termed 'Balanced Technology Management' (BTM) where parents manage balance between activities children need for growth and success with technology use. Rowan's company Zone'in Programs Inc. http://www.zonein.ca has developed a 'System of Solutions' for addressing technology overuse in children through the creation of Zone'in Products, Workshops, Training and Consultation services.




Cris Rowan is an impassioned occupational therapist who has first-hand understanding and knowledge of how technology can cause profound changes in a child's development, behavior and their ability to learn. Cris has a Bachelor of Science in Occupational Therapy, as well as a Bachelor of Science in Biology, and is a SIPT certified sensory integration specialist. Cris is a member in good standing with the BC College of Occupational Therapists, and an approved provider with the American Occupational Therapy Association, the Canadian Association of Occupational Therapists, and Autism Community Training. For the past fifteen years, Cris has specialized in pediatric rehabilitation, working for over a decade in the Sunshine Coast School District in British Columbia.

Cris is CEO of Zone'in Programs Inc. offering products, workshops and training to improve child health and enhance academic performance. Cris designed Zone'in, Move'in, Unplug'in and Live'in educational products for elementary children to address the rise in developmental delays, behavior disorders, and technology overuse. Cris has performed over 200 Foundation Series Workshops on topics such as sensory integration and attention, motor development and literacy, attachment formation and addictions, early intervention, technology overuse, media literacy programs, and school environmental design for the 21st century for teachers, parents and health professionals throughout North America. Cris has recently created Zone'in Training Programs to train other pediatric occupational therapists to deliver these integral workshops in their own community. Cris is an expert reviewer for the Canadian Family Physician Journal, authors the monthly Zone'in Development Series Newsletter and is author of the following initiatives: Unplug - Don't Drug, Creating Sustainable Futures Program, and Linking Corporations to Community. Cris is author of a forthcoming book Disconnect to Reconnect - How to manage balance between activities children need for growth and success with technology use.





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2012年1月11日 星期三

The Positive Factor - Helping Your Child Achieve Greatness, Part II


The first three years of a child's life are very critical years. In their first year, their brain doubles in size and by age three it is twice as active as a mature adult's brain. This is important for parents and caregivers to know because it is during this time frame that brain development is most active which will have a great impact on a child's future.

Relationships play a major role in early childhood education and development which will have lasting affects on the outcome of every child. They will strengthen and build up a child's ability to learn and control their emotions or they will weaken and hinder their ability to learn and control their emotions.

Researchers have discovered that children who have been exposed to neglect, prolong stress and or abusive relationships at an early age have more difficulty coping with life situations. Studies reveal that children raised in this type of environment tend to be antisocial and have behavioral problems. These are the result of deficits in critical areas of brain development. Interesting though, out of the three negative behaviors mentioned above, brief periods of stress during a child's early years, will actually prepare them to understand and deal with stressful situations that they will encounter with the world around them. Although the long term affects of stress, neglect and abuse upon a child under 5 years of age have not been fully realized, studies show in some cases, that intervention programs whose purpose is to reverse problematic behavior have in fact reduced behavioral problems.

The Child Trauma Academy, a non-profit organization devoted to improving the lives of traumatized and maltreated children, released an article entitled, "Altered brain development following global neglect in early childhood" which reveals the negative impact of neglect on the developing brain. Computed Tomography Scan (CT scan) clearly shows a significant difference between a healthy three year old with an average size head and a three year old suffering from severe sensory deprivation neglect. The differences in brain development and size are quite astounding.

Raising a child can be a difficult task at times and parents as well as caregivers will make mistakes, but there is never an excuse for neglect and abuse. Let's face it, a child will scrape a knee, hear their parents or caregivers argue and experience the ups and downs of life, but it is all a process which helps their brain to mature. So be positive, loving and caring, invest all that you can into your children and you will be helping them achieve greatness.




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2012年1月10日 星期二

Trendy Child Abuse - Taking Your Kid to a Shrink


When I lived in Philadelphia, I was the only psychologist that a busy pediatrician would ever use to send his little patients. The reason was that my results were dramatic and consistent. The doctor knew that when he referred a child to me, the child would get well.

To this day, if he is still alive, he does not know that I never saw a single one of his patients. They played in the waiting room while I treated the parents. The youngest ones busied themselves with toys, and the teens absorbed themselves in the TV.

The reason I maintain this policy today is simply this: There is no such thing as a disturbed child who does not come from a troubled marriage, an upset parent, or both. Children react to what they are put through at home.

With the very few exceptions in genetics or other biology, children do not suffer from mental illness. They think, feel, and behave as dictated by the conditions they live in or to which they have been exposed.

My premise is not supported by the mental-health profession at large because tradition holds mental illness as some sort of mental state that arises within individuals but without a reason. So psychologists and psychiatrists make some observations, ask a few questions, and then affix a diagnostic label. The psychiatrist begins to prescribe medicine, no matter how long the list of side effects.

Many cannot see that what has always been considered mental illness is a reaction, not a set of symptoms magically emerging from a vacuum. Even attention-deficit hyperactivity disorder (ADHD), the garbage-can diagnosis of school counselors, is a direct result of sensory deprivation in very early childhood. Even the most severe cases can be managed without medication.

ADHD has already been discussed in a previous article, and it is also described in my book. But usually it is a misdiagnosis.

Today, mental-health practitioners are being swarmed by cases of posttraumatic stress disorder (PTSD). Contrary to the foregoing, this painful state is being experienced by children all over the world. But again, even this real pathology is a reaction to craziness in any number of forms.

For example, children are reacting to physical, sexual, and emotional abuse in record numbers. Others are struggling with the trauma of actual war as more and more battles emerge all over the world. As a rule, doctoral programs in psychology concentrate very little on training their students to recognize trauma, let alone how to treat it.

In the United States, the main cause of PTSD is, beyond question, child abuse. The fact is that little kids are being dehumanized by their own parents, by the very people who are supposed to love them.

Some of these parents, potential murderers that they are, actually want their kids to be dead.

One of the main disguises for parents abusing their children is to label the child as being crazy. They take the child to a doctor who, the parents are sure, will not catch on to the reality. In fact, the doctor will reinforce what the child has heard from his parents, that there is something wrong with him. So the victim himself will grow up with the lie that there is something wrong inside his head.

This entire scenario is intensified and fueled by the fact that the little patient will indeed exhibit symptoms. Abuse, being the strongest communication possible, will always produce symptoms. What is not generally understood is that the symptoms are reactions to craziness.

There is not now, nor will there ever be, a normal way to react to craziness. Those who can understand such a statement will readily see that very, very, often, taking your child to a shrink is another form of child abuse, another expression of our debased society.




Father Heyward B. Ewart, Ph.D. is President of St. James the Elder Theological Seminary. Information about the doctoral curriculum in Christian clinical counseling and other programs, plus more information on Fr. Ewart, can be found at the seminary's website, http://stjamestheelderseminary.org
Father Ewart is author of the book "AM I BAD? Recovering from Abuse", published by Loving Healing Press. (lovinghealing.com) His site has links to two podcasts whereby he can be heard on separate topics changing weekly.





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2011年12月8日 星期四

Regenerating the Green Child


One of the strongest motivations for eco-tourism should be the influences it can have on our children. I asked a CEO of one of the top carbon reducing company in the world, what was the best way to change people's behavior and thinking on "going green". His answered saying we have to educate the children. Whether this is taught in the schools or Cub or Girl Scouts, these children will be the shepherds of the future.

In their wide-eyed innocence they will go home and ask, "Mom, we learned about recycling today. Do we do that?" If allowed, they will then either: teach, insist or correct the home behavior. Unfortunately, culture and population growth have been producing a succession of generations with less and less regard for nature. Also, there is less and less nature in many places to be appreciated.

Appreciation comes from being in Nature and the first five years of one's life are vital for brain development. In those early years the brain is deciding which neurons to keep and which to discard... "Use it or loose it" as they say. Do we want our children to have brains that are global and one with the world or segmented into "Lego" or "Barbie" mentality? Toys, kinds of play and exposure are critical.

The early environment that provides a rich-multi-sensory experience allows the brain to develop its integrative capacities....integration and regulation of sensory information. Pleasurable experiences are the catalyst in developing the biological foundation for emotional-social-sexual intelligence. Brain growth is truly experience dependent. A change in your environment equals a change in the brain. Our body evolved in a rich multi-sensory natural environment and expects to be fed rich multi-sensory experiences. Three dimensional experiences enrich the brain's development significantly over a two dimensional symbolic abstract screen (computers and TV).

Today's graduates in terms of social, emotional and imaginative capacities are no match for the graduates of earlier generations. They are sensorially deprived.

I grew up in the tropical jungles of Sumatra, Indonesia. Our typical day was as follows: We got up when we felt like it (usually around 7), had a good healthy breakfast, spent 1 ? hours in our home schooling course, Calvert School out of Maryland, went to the Club pool until lunch time, came home, had a big lunch, and when our parents took a nap around one pm, we kids got together to invent, play and explore. This was our time and we did everything from playing canasta with 12 decks to slipping through the tiger grass outside our home to go down to the stream to find new species of tropical fish to bring home to our fish tank.

In the afternoon our father came home from work and we had tea like the British out in our outdoor teahouse. Then we went for a family game of golf. We did not have television. The clubhouse offered two movies a week, Wednesday night and Saturday. As a large social group we met on those nights at the club house for dinner (we all chipped in) and then watched whichever movie we had been sent. It could have been Hop-a-long Cassidy or Ben Hur. That didn't matter. We were a social entity enjoying and laughing at the craziness or wonder of the movie.

We lived in nature. My father was a rubber planter for Goodyear rubber and our home was surrounded by huge trees covered with orchids and our yard was full of tropical flowers. What are my favorite memories of my childhood? They are not television, recess, my computer or my Ipod. They are my experiences in nature: the pool in the jungle, my little 1 yard square garden my dad helped me grow, my chickens, "Donald" the white duck that followed me around, the tree we climb and held meetings in, the wonder of the new orchid my Dad grew. And yes, even picking leeches off ourselves, trying to avoid snakes, centipedes and other creepy insects, being at awe at the tiger tracks in our backyard banana patch, experiencing thunder and lightening, collecting huge toads in a pond, observing frog eggs hatch into pollywogs, waiting for the chickens to hatch and so on. I remember them all, good, bad, and scary and appreciate each for the lesson it taught. To this day these are my stories.

Our family time consisted of bicycling into the jungle via dirt roads, going with our father to discover a pool laced in the jungle undergrowth, playing golf, building things from scratch, and improvising.

In our modern society, the experiences of nature are vanishing. What can you do? While there are many options from joining nature organizations, green movements, taking a nature break, moving to a nature place, influencing your schools to teach nature curriculums, doing a family nature adventure each weekend, this article is about living in Nature or taking a Nature vacation.

Due to my childhood experience in Sumatra, I found I greatly missed the "green" in my life. I up and sold everything and moved to Costa Rica. I feel in love and mostly with the opportunity to return to be able to relive the moments in my life of my greatest happiness's.

Tres Rios de Coronado on the South Coast is a place that embodies that natural genius of my childhood, a place of natural spirit and spirits. I am an adult now (in years at least) and yet I am back in the wonder of my gardens around my Ecolodge, the sometimes roaring river below me after a heavy rain, the many animal sounds that bless my soul from morning to night, and in fact, all night. We are constantly in wonder as to what bug is making this or that noise. One of my favorites is delving into eco-tours (with the sprit of the young at heart) for that different or unusual flower, fern or plant for my collection. We enjoy walking the beaches and exploring the caves at low tide or snorkeling off Cano Island, one of the best places in the world to snorkel, or surfing in Dominical Beach. This is of course, after a boat ride through 25 miles of the world's third largest mangrove area in the world and seeing the bats on trees, snakes, and caiman on the banks, unusual birds and thick jungles off to the OSA Peninsula side. After the mangroves, there is the experience of crossing the bar from river to ocean and then hoping to see the giant turtles pass the boat as well as pods of dolphins, maybe even a humpback whale. For the braver, jumping into the ocean waters and swimming in the ocean 50 miles off the coast. For those lovers of fresh mountain waters, climbing up one of our numerous rivers (Tres Rios) through boulders to discover as one climbs further and further up, natural river pools and bigger and bigger waterfalls.

The ecotourism in Costa Rica is full of positive activities for children and adults that are available here. There are many more, such as zip-lining through the jungle canopy, river-rafting, ocean fishing, eating and exploring new food in the markets, horseback riding up into the hills or along the beaches, and visiting to open aired fresh produce markets.

We live much off our land as well. Our foods are fresh and whole. We have: pineapples, papaya, guyaba, avocado, cashew, lemon/orange trees, water apple, rambutan, and yucca plants. There are numerous plants that offer us cures for many ailments as well. I have not seen a child in Costa Rica with a runny nose. My worker's son, at age 6 went to the local school for kinder-garden and was never sick the whole year. This is the land of health and longevity.

I have observed several gutsy families who have brought their children to raise them in this environment and decided to home-school them. I am amazed at the intelligence of these children. One of my friend's child who is 11 years old has purchased 10 goats and is learning animal husbandry, simple veterinary skills, how to make goat cheese and simply being responsible. Another couple with two young girls ages 6 and 8 takes her children on endless adventure outings from zip-lining to botanical garden experiences. I observed these two girls and their two American friends who came to visit zipping out away from us full of confidence playing Tarzan over the canopy floor. I pictured the poor child in civilization being hand-held and guarded by their parents for fear of being kidnapped, being run over by a car or whatever else they need to be protected from.

Outdoor activity in other environments has taken a back seat today to television, video games, the computer, and a demanding work schedule. Solution: Change your life and the way you are living it. Get outdoors, travel, camp, explore, create outdoor hobbies, garden and so on. Be one with nature!




Rosemary MacGregor is an enthusiastic promotor of Ecotourism in Costa Rica. She feels small, rural tourism is the key to preserving the eco-system as well as maintaining it at the level of of appreciation for sincere ecotourist Costa Rica. Her interest extends from preserving the archeological findings to training the young and educating the peoples in the rural villages.





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2011年12月1日 星期四

Bedtime Tips For the Child With Sensory Issues


Quality sleep is crucial for quality functioning, and yet we are a sleep-deprived culture. Adults drink coffee and push themselves past their tiredness, while children will naturally push themselves to be more alert and then not be able to calm down. Kids with sensory issues usually have poor self-regulation, meaning they can't easily bring themselves from one state of alertness to another. When tired or feeling lethargic, they will rev up to a hyperactive state and remain there. They may even endanger themselves as they get toward bedtime and become more giddy and unmindful of where their body is in relation to people and objects. Accidents are more likely to happen just before bedtime when kids are getting wired as they are getting tired.

For safety's sake, and to get kids in bed on time to get the necessary amount of sleep, begin the bedtime routine at least 30 minutes before their actual bedtime, if not longer. A few minutes between the announcement that it is time to go to sleep and lights out is not enough time for a sensory child's body to adjust. Turn off the television and DVD early; both are hypnotizing, and the minutes will slip away as he watches "just this last scene" and the next, and the next.

Dim the lights. The bright lighting that is right for playing with toys in the bedroom is too stimulating before bed. Read bedtime stories by lamplight not by the overhead light.

Stick to a routine. Make sure teeth are brushed, bath is over with (note that bathtime at night is too stimulating for some sensory kids), and pajamas are on before settling in to bed. This way, you can avoid a struggle over him having to jump out of bed to brush in front of the sink. Let your child pick a favorite story or nonfiction book. You might also talk about the events of the day in a positive way. For instance, if your child pitched a fit after school because she had to go to the dentist, talk it through and validate her feelings, and have a short discussion on how to make things easier the next time she has an appointment. Help her to go to sleep believing that tomorrow she will do better, with your support.

Think about blocking out background noise. Close doors so she can't hear the television or a conversation going on in another room.Consider using a fan (not necessarily blowing on your child, just "on"), aquarium, white noise machine, soft music, or even a radio turned to static to block out background noise that will keep her awake.

Provide deep pressure input. It may help to massage her limbs, squeezing them gently and then releasing, to calm her body. You can teach her to tighten her muscles, then release them, body part by body part, in order to self-calm any time she needs to go from an alert to calm, or sleeping, state. She may need hugging, pillows pressed against her, or a weighted blanket to help her body to fall asleep. If you want to use a weighted blanket, consult a sensory smart OT about the proper weight and use. Or, use heavy cotton blankets, if they don't make your child too warm.

All of these strategies will help your child with sensory issues relax his system and have an easier time going from an alert to a calm, then asleep, state.

Copyright (c) 2010 Nancy Peske




Nancy Peske is the coauthor of the book Raising a Sensory Smart Child: The Definitive Handbook for Helping Your Child with Sensory Processing Issues. She blogs about parenting kids with SPD and sends out a weekly newsletter of practical tips for parents and professionals who work with children who have sensory processing issues, available via her website http://www.sensorysmartparent.com





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