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2012年9月8日 星期六

Getting In Touch With Your Body For Better Singing


If you're like most singers striving to get better, chances are good that you spend a lot of time practicing the technical side of the art; things like breath control, scales, vocal exercises, hitting high notes, tone quality - the list is endless! These things are definitely crucial to improving as a vocalist. However, in my years of studying, performing and teaching singing, I've found that most people work on the technical aspects of this art without first learning about and really understanding (on a gut level) the underlying principles that can either make these techniques effective or frustratingly INeffective.

You probably know that we humans have 5 basic senses, right? Sight, hearing, smell, taste and touch. But in actuality, there are more than just 5 scientists have identified over 20 different senses! Some of the more interesting ones include perception of temperature (thermoception), perception of pain (nociception) and perception of balance (equilibrioception). However, the two senses we'll be discussing in this article, which apply directly to singing, are:

1. Kinesthetic sense (proprioception)

2. Internal sense (interoception)

Kinesthetic Sense

Your kinesthetic sense (pronounced KIN-UH-STET-ICK) is how in tune you are with the movements of your body. If you want to do a quick test of your kinesthetic awareness, close your eyes and try to touch the tip of your nose with your index finger. If you wind up sticking your finger in your mouth by accident, you're either drunk (haha) or just not used to coordinating these particular parts of your body. You'll notice, however, that if you try this little test a few more times, your accuracy improves. That just goes to show you that like most things, you can train yourself to gain an amazing degree of awareness over your kinesthetic sense!

How does this apply to singing? Well, as a vocalist, there are several physical challenges you face, including: distributing your weight, aligning your hips, moving gracefully (especially if you're on stage), improving the expressiveness of your facial and body gestures, and many more. When done right, all of these parts add up to make a good performance. In fact, one of the biggest benefits of training with a quality vocal coach is that they point out all of the weird body language stuff you do when you sing; stuff you're probably not even aware of it!

To illustrate how important developing your kinesthetic sense is, a funny story comes to mind. At the university where I studied classical voice, every friday we had something called performance lab, during which music students would perform for their peers and professors in the more intimate of our two performance halls. During my first semester there, my vocal coach insisted that I perform to gain experience on stage, and since I wasn't really good yet, I was incredibly nervous about showcasing my lack of singing ability. But I studied my music, practiced it with my pianist, and when my name was called, I went up there and did my best.

The blast of adrenaline made my knees almost buckle and the song seemed to go by in a split-second. After the performance, one of my good friends, a talented musician named Alex gave me some of the most honest feedback I've ever received. "Dude... " he said, "you looked like you were jerking off." Apparently, during my performance I was moving my hands interpretively along with the music in a gesture that bore uncanny resemblance to what many teenage boys across the world do to ease their antsiness. The funniest part about it is that I had absolutely NO clue that I was doing it!

I hope you got a chuckle out of that. When Alex told me I was mortified, but looking back it's pretty hilarious. The takeaway here is that you often do stuff during a performance that you aren't even aware of, so the goal should be to improve your kinesthetic awareness in order to infuse power and persuasiveness into your performance, and avoid confusing and distracting body language. In addition to training with a vocal coach who helps point these things out, the absolute BEST way to do this is by videotaping yourself.

If you've ever recorded your voice and thought "man, that doesn't sound anything like me!" then you're already aware of the fact that what you see, hear and feel isn't necessarily what the audience is seeing, hearing and feeling. If you simply grab a digital camera or your iPhone and leave it recording during your practice sessions and voice lessons, you'll be absolutely blown away by what you discover, especially when the pressure's on!

As you study your recordings and observe your physical behavior, you'll be able to slowly begin closing the gap between what you THINK you're doing and how you THINK it looks with what's really going on. Once your own perception of your body movements matches up with how it looks to an outside observer, you'll have achieved a high level of kinesthetic awareness!

Internal Sense

Your internal sense is your awareness of and ability to manipulate various physical movements inside your body. It includes things like control of your breathing muscles, general muscular tension, coordination of fine larynx muscles, sensations of resonance and more. What makes developing the internal sense such a unique and interesting challenge is that it's mostly hidden from sight. You could even say that this is part of "learning to listen to your body," - a new agey concept for some - but not for singers in the know!

The internal sense, in my opinion, is even more vital for a singer's development than the kinesthetic sense. That one's easy; you simply videotape yourself and adjust body movements until how they look and feel match, and BAM! you've got good kinesthetic awareness (although there's always room to grow). The internal sense, on the other hand, is tricker because there's no reliable feedback mechanism that lets you observe yourself from the outside and make adjustments when something looks unusual.

However, there are a number of ways to train this awareness indirectly. Here are 3 practical ways:

1. Exercise - You have the ability to contract all of the voluntary muscles in your body, and even involuntary muscles can be controlled indirectly (the diaphragm is an example of this). Great singing requires you to "optimize" the degree of tension of individual muscles and muscle groups, from the legs, to the ribs, to the larynx and everything in between. Too much tension and your sound comes out strained and squeezed; too little tension and your notes come out flat due to lack of support. World renowned pioneer of singing and voice scientist Richard Miller coined the term "dynamic equilibrium" to describe this state of optimal tensions.

Only YOU can determine how much to contract the various muscles involved in singing. The reason exercising is so powerful in developing the internal sense is because when you repeat the same maneuvers over and over, you engage the same muscle groups and feel them strengthen and grow in relation to each other and surrounding muscle groups. If you've ever seen "The Karate Kid", you can consider exercising as the equivalent of "wax on, wax off" for developing the internal sense.

2. Partial Sensory Deprivation - Sounds fancy, but all it means is depriving your other senses of stimulation so that the internal sense gets intensified and is more easily perceived. Have you ever heard about how blind people develop a better sense of smell and hearing than people with sight? They still have the same noses and ears that everybody else has, yet they've learned to get more information out of these senses in order to get by better. In fact, brain scans show that the areas of the brain associated with the remaining senses of blind individuals actually grow and make more connections to compensate for their lack of sight.

In the same way, closing your eyes, practicing in a room devoid of any pronounced smells, making sure the temperature is perfect, and generally removing any kind of superfluous stimuli from your environment will necessarily create more awareness of the movements going on inside your body as you practice singing.

3. Conscious Attention - Sounds obvious, but the more you focus on and pay attention to what's going on "inside", the more control you'll develop over time. Working on your breath control is one of the best ways to achieve this because you're already at least partially aware of some of the mechanics of breathing, so your mind has a reference point for further awareness. Research various breathing techniques online and in books and try them out. Go to a few yoga classes and become very intimate with how the breath affects your mood, physical sense of well being and mental performance; you might be surprised at the power of this connection. Then apply what you've learned to your singing.

Conclusion

It bears repeating that YOU are the only one who can create an accurate, consistent representation of the internal body. Take ownership of this responsibility (as well as for your singing progress in general) and don't allow anybody - not even a teacher - impose their paradigm on you simply because it works for them or for some other students. YOUR body will tell you what's up, but you must learn to listen to it with complete honesty and openness.




... most singing tips are total B.S.!! Get REAL singing advice in my free singing eBook - Smart Singing Basics - simply click HERE to grab your copy!

Vic Dorfman is a vocal coach and singer and the head honcho over at The Smart Singer





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2012年8月27日 星期一

Getting the Late Night Munchies


It is the complexity of the individual that is the key to food cravings, not simply a magical property of the food being craved' - (A. Hill)

Getting the Late Night Munchies

Do you find that no matter how committed you are to healthy eating or weight loss diets, there's a specific time each evening that you get the 'munchies'? And, that small square of chocolate or a biscuit or two does nothing to alleviate this craving?

Have you really stopped to think about this or do you just accept that this is the way it is? Because it doesn't have to be this way. If you have eaten sufficient nourishment during the day then a need for food is not what this is about...it rarely is in our society.

What is happening is that there is some other need, some psychological/emotional need that is not being met and because that need is going un-noticed, un-acknowledged or even denied, it is seeping out like water through a crack in a glass, and the more this need goes unmet, the emptier the glass gets, transforming itself into the dreaded 'munchies' or as is more commonly known in this profession - emotional eating or 'putting food on feelings'.

To get to the source of this need often takes some time and exploration but when you finally do acknowledge the true source of this need and take the appropriate steps to get it met then you will notice that the 'munchies' just disappear.

Hunger Vs Craving

Whilst both hunger and food cravings are caused by the release of certain chemicals in our body, the chemicals and the process of their release are completely different. Feelings of hunger are produced by the release of the hormone ghrelin when our blood sugar and insulin level drops, once we eat and these regulate, another hormone, leptin is released to suppress our appetite. Basically it is our body that is triggering the release of the hormones.

Cravings, on the other hand, are triggered more by the mind. They are much more complex and can be triggered through eating certain kinds of food, through sensory memories and through emotions.

Eating - Have you ever known anyone (other than pregnant women) to crave foods such as celery? Cravings through eating result from eating sugary or fatty foods which release a chemical called opiods into our bloodstream which give feelings of pleasure. The more you eat the more you want.

Sensory memories - this ranges from memories stored deep in the brain from when we were in the womb, to seeing a picture of a chocolate cake or a Macdonald's advert in a magazine. Sensory memories trigger a part of the brain that releases the hormone dopamine, also producing a feel good factor that has been described as similar to that of a drug addiction in that the more you feed this craving the more you need to keep your craving at bay.

Emotions - Studies on mood have found that our emotional state normally has a greater impact on cravings than hunger [source: Hill 2007]. What this means is that there is a direct correlation between our emotions and our cravings. The hormone seratonin, also known as the 'happy hormone' is released in response to balanced emotions, supporting our continued emotional stability. If our mood is low or negative then the release of seratonin is restricted and the higher the chance of us having cravings, especially if our diet too is not particularly healthy.

So you can see from this small excerpt how complex and individual cravings are and how, more often than not, it is cravings that get in the way of people maintaining a diet or healthy eating regime, especially in the early stages.

Tips on Dealing with Cravings:

1. Don't deprive yourself - a little of what you fancy, occasionally, will satisfy the craving.

2. Vary your diet - boredom and anxiety with what you're eating contributes to craving.

3. If you are someone that needs to snack then make sure that wherever you go you have some healthy snacks with you e.g. fruit, nuts

4. Less emotional stress and more balance in your life will not only reduce cravings but support you in maintaining a healthier diet.

5. The more fat your body has the more cravings you are likely to experience, losing body fat will reduce the cravings.

6. Become conscious of your cravings. When they occur sit and notice what's happening.

7. Journal about the cravings - How often do you get them? Is it a regular time/day? What triggers them? If you look deeper than the food, what is it that you are really craving for - what is the food a cover up for?

8. There are many factors to cravings - each are unique to you as an individual, working with a coach/therapist to explore yours will empower you to make better choices.




Jacqui has been coaching, counseling and educating women since 2002 and has recently led women's retreats in the U.K., Spain and the U.S.A.

She developed the Conscious Eating Program from her own experience of losing over 50lbs 4 years ago and keeping it off! She is an advocate of Self Responsibility for our own health & wellbeing and believes that eating good organic natural food, drinking spring water & daily yoga are key to her continuing slimness, good health and well being.

Visit [http://www.consciouseatingcoach.com] to apply for your complimentary coaching session or view http://consciouseatingcoaching.blogspot.com/ for up-to-date thoughts and tips for eating healthily.





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2012年8月26日 星期日

Toys, Tricks and Tears: Getting the Most Out of Your BDSM Play


Whether you are merely on the fringes of the BDSM lifestyle, or it permeates the very fiber of your being and that of your partner/lover as well, there is something for everyone. New experiences and apparatuses to elicit wonderful and varied responses to heighten said experiences are just around the corner. Elation, even tears (of want and desire rather than pain or anguish, since sex should 'never' cause genuine harm) are a real chance with thoughtful, evocative sex play. Come with us, and we'll explore this winding road leading down into the depths of that sweet intoxicating blending of passion and pain.

Blindfolds and Sensation Play

For some, blindfolds are the quintessential addition to any D/s playtime. Sensory deprivation coupled with the sensory overload in other areas meshed with the complete and absolute trust needed to be willing to wear one makes this a magnificent tool. Imagine, if you will, as the shade slips over your eyes, turning your vision to blackness. Perhaps you can move, more likely though, you cannot. Your hearing becomes more acute as you pick up on every little sound. You won't know what your lover is doing until he or she does it. Your skin tingles in anticipation and at the first touch upon your flesh, be it with a knife, a hand, an ice cube, hot wax, a clothespin or whatever your imaginations can dream up, you react instantly with a sharp intake of breath. Tactile sensations become poignant and are the sole focus once you are unable to see.

Earplugs

These link very, very nicely with blindfolds. For a true sensory deprivation experience, your options are substantial. On the one hand, you can go with the cheap memory foam earplugs found in most grocery or drug stores. There are industrial variants that are similar, and then there are the hoods that some sex shops sell. Intimidating yet finely crafted, these (usually leather, though other construction options are available) hoods provide both visual and auditory deprivation. Cutting ties to other senses besides sight serves only to heighten and prolong the experience.

Restraints

From silk scarves to saran wrap to wrist/ankle cuffs or industrial strength bungee cord, when you want to immobilize your partner, there are numerous options, depending on what you want to do and how comfortable your partner is with that particular kink. Many ankle/wrist cuffs come with metal D rings attached to which you can affix your binder of choice. Ultimately, the purpose of restraint is control. Direct your partner's sensations, which in turn lead to further enjoyment for both of you. From orgasm control to the most basic lack of simply being able to touch himself or herself or you, tying your partner up like an erotic Christmas gift can be a great deal of fun. As with any aspect of this sort of fun, safety is key. You must be sure not to cut off blood circulation, and in the case of saran wrap, the body loses its ability to breathe and release heat, so you have to keep your partner cool. When you remove it, the opposite will be true, so have a robe or blanket handy.

In addition to this modest list of physical options (modest, because there are numerous options besides these which you can experiment with to find out what you like), there are scenarios and ideas, which can further heighten the pleasure and joy both parties potentially experience. From conditioning - or honing your partner to get off by doing or wearing a certain thing (even in public) to dirty talking, to roleplay, your options are as boundless as your imagination. So long as you play it safe, and make sure your partner knows that you love him or her and will do right by him or her long after the welts and transient pains of want have faded, there's no end to what you can do.




Susan M is the owner of http://www.wealthybdsmdating.com where people can be free to explore their love of the BDSM lifestyle.





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2012年7月13日 星期五

Getting In Touch With Your Body For Better Singing


If you're like most singers striving to get better, chances are good that you spend a lot of time practicing the technical side of the art; things like breath control, scales, vocal exercises, hitting high notes, tone quality - the list is endless! These things are definitely crucial to improving as a vocalist. However, in my years of studying, performing and teaching singing, I've found that most people work on the technical aspects of this art without first learning about and really understanding (on a gut level) the underlying principles that can either make these techniques effective or frustratingly INeffective.

You probably know that we humans have 5 basic senses, right? Sight, hearing, smell, taste and touch. But in actuality, there are more than just 5 scientists have identified over 20 different senses! Some of the more interesting ones include perception of temperature (thermoception), perception of pain (nociception) and perception of balance (equilibrioception). However, the two senses we'll be discussing in this article, which apply directly to singing, are:

1. Kinesthetic sense (proprioception)

2. Internal sense (interoception)

Kinesthetic Sense

Your kinesthetic sense (pronounced KIN-UH-STET-ICK) is how in tune you are with the movements of your body. If you want to do a quick test of your kinesthetic awareness, close your eyes and try to touch the tip of your nose with your index finger. If you wind up sticking your finger in your mouth by accident, you're either drunk (haha) or just not used to coordinating these particular parts of your body. You'll notice, however, that if you try this little test a few more times, your accuracy improves. That just goes to show you that like most things, you can train yourself to gain an amazing degree of awareness over your kinesthetic sense!

How does this apply to singing? Well, as a vocalist, there are several physical challenges you face, including: distributing your weight, aligning your hips, moving gracefully (especially if you're on stage), improving the expressiveness of your facial and body gestures, and many more. When done right, all of these parts add up to make a good performance. In fact, one of the biggest benefits of training with a quality vocal coach is that they point out all of the weird body language stuff you do when you sing; stuff you're probably not even aware of it!

To illustrate how important developing your kinesthetic sense is, a funny story comes to mind. At the university where I studied classical voice, every friday we had something called performance lab, during which music students would perform for their peers and professors in the more intimate of our two performance halls. During my first semester there, my vocal coach insisted that I perform to gain experience on stage, and since I wasn't really good yet, I was incredibly nervous about showcasing my lack of singing ability. But I studied my music, practiced it with my pianist, and when my name was called, I went up there and did my best.

The blast of adrenaline made my knees almost buckle and the song seemed to go by in a split-second. After the performance, one of my good friends, a talented musician named Alex gave me some of the most honest feedback I've ever received. "Dude... " he said, "you looked like you were jerking off." Apparently, during my performance I was moving my hands interpretively along with the music in a gesture that bore uncanny resemblance to what many teenage boys across the world do to ease their antsiness. The funniest part about it is that I had absolutely NO clue that I was doing it!

I hope you got a chuckle out of that. When Alex told me I was mortified, but looking back it's pretty hilarious. The takeaway here is that you often do stuff during a performance that you aren't even aware of, so the goal should be to improve your kinesthetic awareness in order to infuse power and persuasiveness into your performance, and avoid confusing and distracting body language. In addition to training with a vocal coach who helps point these things out, the absolute BEST way to do this is by videotaping yourself.

If you've ever recorded your voice and thought "man, that doesn't sound anything like me!" then you're already aware of the fact that what you see, hear and feel isn't necessarily what the audience is seeing, hearing and feeling. If you simply grab a digital camera or your iPhone and leave it recording during your practice sessions and voice lessons, you'll be absolutely blown away by what you discover, especially when the pressure's on!

As you study your recordings and observe your physical behavior, you'll be able to slowly begin closing the gap between what you THINK you're doing and how you THINK it looks with what's really going on. Once your own perception of your body movements matches up with how it looks to an outside observer, you'll have achieved a high level of kinesthetic awareness!

Internal Sense

Your internal sense is your awareness of and ability to manipulate various physical movements inside your body. It includes things like control of your breathing muscles, general muscular tension, coordination of fine larynx muscles, sensations of resonance and more. What makes developing the internal sense such a unique and interesting challenge is that it's mostly hidden from sight. You could even say that this is part of "learning to listen to your body," - a new agey concept for some - but not for singers in the know!

The internal sense, in my opinion, is even more vital for a singer's development than the kinesthetic sense. That one's easy; you simply videotape yourself and adjust body movements until how they look and feel match, and BAM! you've got good kinesthetic awareness (although there's always room to grow). The internal sense, on the other hand, is tricker because there's no reliable feedback mechanism that lets you observe yourself from the outside and make adjustments when something looks unusual.

However, there are a number of ways to train this awareness indirectly. Here are 3 practical ways:

1. Exercise - You have the ability to contract all of the voluntary muscles in your body, and even involuntary muscles can be controlled indirectly (the diaphragm is an example of this). Great singing requires you to "optimize" the degree of tension of individual muscles and muscle groups, from the legs, to the ribs, to the larynx and everything in between. Too much tension and your sound comes out strained and squeezed; too little tension and your notes come out flat due to lack of support. World renowned pioneer of singing and voice scientist Richard Miller coined the term "dynamic equilibrium" to describe this state of optimal tensions.

Only YOU can determine how much to contract the various muscles involved in singing. The reason exercising is so powerful in developing the internal sense is because when you repeat the same maneuvers over and over, you engage the same muscle groups and feel them strengthen and grow in relation to each other and surrounding muscle groups. If you've ever seen "The Karate Kid", you can consider exercising as the equivalent of "wax on, wax off" for developing the internal sense.

2. Partial Sensory Deprivation - Sounds fancy, but all it means is depriving your other senses of stimulation so that the internal sense gets intensified and is more easily perceived. Have you ever heard about how blind people develop a better sense of smell and hearing than people with sight? They still have the same noses and ears that everybody else has, yet they've learned to get more information out of these senses in order to get by better. In fact, brain scans show that the areas of the brain associated with the remaining senses of blind individuals actually grow and make more connections to compensate for their lack of sight.

In the same way, closing your eyes, practicing in a room devoid of any pronounced smells, making sure the temperature is perfect, and generally removing any kind of superfluous stimuli from your environment will necessarily create more awareness of the movements going on inside your body as you practice singing.

3. Conscious Attention - Sounds obvious, but the more you focus on and pay attention to what's going on "inside", the more control you'll develop over time. Working on your breath control is one of the best ways to achieve this because you're already at least partially aware of some of the mechanics of breathing, so your mind has a reference point for further awareness. Research various breathing techniques online and in books and try them out. Go to a few yoga classes and become very intimate with how the breath affects your mood, physical sense of well being and mental performance; you might be surprised at the power of this connection. Then apply what you've learned to your singing.

Conclusion

It bears repeating that YOU are the only one who can create an accurate, consistent representation of the internal body. Take ownership of this responsibility (as well as for your singing progress in general) and don't allow anybody - not even a teacher - impose their paradigm on you simply because it works for them or for some other students. YOUR body will tell you what's up, but you must learn to listen to it with complete honesty and openness.




... most singing tips are total B.S.!! Get REAL singing advice in my free singing eBook - Smart Singing Basics - simply click HERE to grab your copy!

Vic Dorfman is a vocal coach and singer and the head honcho over at The Smart Singer





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2012年6月25日 星期一

Getting the Late Night Munchies


It is the complexity of the individual that is the key to food cravings, not simply a magical property of the food being craved' - (A. Hill)

Getting the Late Night Munchies

Do you find that no matter how committed you are to healthy eating or weight loss diets, there's a specific time each evening that you get the 'munchies'? And, that small square of chocolate or a biscuit or two does nothing to alleviate this craving?

Have you really stopped to think about this or do you just accept that this is the way it is? Because it doesn't have to be this way. If you have eaten sufficient nourishment during the day then a need for food is not what this is about...it rarely is in our society.

What is happening is that there is some other need, some psychological/emotional need that is not being met and because that need is going un-noticed, un-acknowledged or even denied, it is seeping out like water through a crack in a glass, and the more this need goes unmet, the emptier the glass gets, transforming itself into the dreaded 'munchies' or as is more commonly known in this profession - emotional eating or 'putting food on feelings'.

To get to the source of this need often takes some time and exploration but when you finally do acknowledge the true source of this need and take the appropriate steps to get it met then you will notice that the 'munchies' just disappear.

Hunger Vs Craving

Whilst both hunger and food cravings are caused by the release of certain chemicals in our body, the chemicals and the process of their release are completely different. Feelings of hunger are produced by the release of the hormone ghrelin when our blood sugar and insulin level drops, once we eat and these regulate, another hormone, leptin is released to suppress our appetite. Basically it is our body that is triggering the release of the hormones.

Cravings, on the other hand, are triggered more by the mind. They are much more complex and can be triggered through eating certain kinds of food, through sensory memories and through emotions.

Eating - Have you ever known anyone (other than pregnant women) to crave foods such as celery? Cravings through eating result from eating sugary or fatty foods which release a chemical called opiods into our bloodstream which give feelings of pleasure. The more you eat the more you want.

Sensory memories - this ranges from memories stored deep in the brain from when we were in the womb, to seeing a picture of a chocolate cake or a Macdonald's advert in a magazine. Sensory memories trigger a part of the brain that releases the hormone dopamine, also producing a feel good factor that has been described as similar to that of a drug addiction in that the more you feed this craving the more you need to keep your craving at bay.

Emotions - Studies on mood have found that our emotional state normally has a greater impact on cravings than hunger [source: Hill 2007]. What this means is that there is a direct correlation between our emotions and our cravings. The hormone seratonin, also known as the 'happy hormone' is released in response to balanced emotions, supporting our continued emotional stability. If our mood is low or negative then the release of seratonin is restricted and the higher the chance of us having cravings, especially if our diet too is not particularly healthy.

So you can see from this small excerpt how complex and individual cravings are and how, more often than not, it is cravings that get in the way of people maintaining a diet or healthy eating regime, especially in the early stages.

Tips on Dealing with Cravings:

1. Don't deprive yourself - a little of what you fancy, occasionally, will satisfy the craving.

2. Vary your diet - boredom and anxiety with what you're eating contributes to craving.

3. If you are someone that needs to snack then make sure that wherever you go you have some healthy snacks with you e.g. fruit, nuts

4. Less emotional stress and more balance in your life will not only reduce cravings but support you in maintaining a healthier diet.

5. The more fat your body has the more cravings you are likely to experience, losing body fat will reduce the cravings.

6. Become conscious of your cravings. When they occur sit and notice what's happening.

7. Journal about the cravings - How often do you get them? Is it a regular time/day? What triggers them? If you look deeper than the food, what is it that you are really craving for - what is the food a cover up for?

8. There are many factors to cravings - each are unique to you as an individual, working with a coach/therapist to explore yours will empower you to make better choices.




Jacqui has been coaching, counseling and educating women since 2002 and has recently led women's retreats in the U.K., Spain and the U.S.A.

She developed the Conscious Eating Program from her own experience of losing over 50lbs 4 years ago and keeping it off! She is an advocate of Self Responsibility for our own health & wellbeing and believes that eating good organic natural food, drinking spring water & daily yoga are key to her continuing slimness, good health and well being.

Visit [http://www.consciouseatingcoach.com] to apply for your complimentary coaching session or view http://consciouseatingcoaching.blogspot.com/ for up-to-date thoughts and tips for eating healthily.





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2012年6月20日 星期三

Toys, Tricks and Tears: Getting the Most Out of Your BDSM Play


Whether you are merely on the fringes of the BDSM lifestyle, or it permeates the very fiber of your being and that of your partner/lover as well, there is something for everyone. New experiences and apparatuses to elicit wonderful and varied responses to heighten said experiences are just around the corner. Elation, even tears (of want and desire rather than pain or anguish, since sex should 'never' cause genuine harm) are a real chance with thoughtful, evocative sex play. Come with us, and we'll explore this winding road leading down into the depths of that sweet intoxicating blending of passion and pain.

Blindfolds and Sensation Play

For some, blindfolds are the quintessential addition to any D/s playtime. Sensory deprivation coupled with the sensory overload in other areas meshed with the complete and absolute trust needed to be willing to wear one makes this a magnificent tool. Imagine, if you will, as the shade slips over your eyes, turning your vision to blackness. Perhaps you can move, more likely though, you cannot. Your hearing becomes more acute as you pick up on every little sound. You won't know what your lover is doing until he or she does it. Your skin tingles in anticipation and at the first touch upon your flesh, be it with a knife, a hand, an ice cube, hot wax, a clothespin or whatever your imaginations can dream up, you react instantly with a sharp intake of breath. Tactile sensations become poignant and are the sole focus once you are unable to see.

Earplugs

These link very, very nicely with blindfolds. For a true sensory deprivation experience, your options are substantial. On the one hand, you can go with the cheap memory foam earplugs found in most grocery or drug stores. There are industrial variants that are similar, and then there are the hoods that some sex shops sell. Intimidating yet finely crafted, these (usually leather, though other construction options are available) hoods provide both visual and auditory deprivation. Cutting ties to other senses besides sight serves only to heighten and prolong the experience.

Restraints

From silk scarves to saran wrap to wrist/ankle cuffs or industrial strength bungee cord, when you want to immobilize your partner, there are numerous options, depending on what you want to do and how comfortable your partner is with that particular kink. Many ankle/wrist cuffs come with metal D rings attached to which you can affix your binder of choice. Ultimately, the purpose of restraint is control. Direct your partner's sensations, which in turn lead to further enjoyment for both of you. From orgasm control to the most basic lack of simply being able to touch himself or herself or you, tying your partner up like an erotic Christmas gift can be a great deal of fun. As with any aspect of this sort of fun, safety is key. You must be sure not to cut off blood circulation, and in the case of saran wrap, the body loses its ability to breathe and release heat, so you have to keep your partner cool. When you remove it, the opposite will be true, so have a robe or blanket handy.

In addition to this modest list of physical options (modest, because there are numerous options besides these which you can experiment with to find out what you like), there are scenarios and ideas, which can further heighten the pleasure and joy both parties potentially experience. From conditioning - or honing your partner to get off by doing or wearing a certain thing (even in public) to dirty talking, to roleplay, your options are as boundless as your imagination. So long as you play it safe, and make sure your partner knows that you love him or her and will do right by him or her long after the welts and transient pains of want have faded, there's no end to what you can do.




Susan M is the owner of http://www.wealthybdsmdating.com where people can be free to explore their love of the BDSM lifestyle.





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2012年6月4日 星期一

Toys, Tricks and Tears: Getting the Most Out of Your BDSM Play


Whether you are merely on the fringes of the BDSM lifestyle, or it permeates the very fiber of your being and that of your partner/lover as well, there is something for everyone. New experiences and apparatuses to elicit wonderful and varied responses to heighten said experiences are just around the corner. Elation, even tears (of want and desire rather than pain or anguish, since sex should 'never' cause genuine harm) are a real chance with thoughtful, evocative sex play. Come with us, and we'll explore this winding road leading down into the depths of that sweet intoxicating blending of passion and pain.

Blindfolds and Sensation Play

For some, blindfolds are the quintessential addition to any D/s playtime. Sensory deprivation coupled with the sensory overload in other areas meshed with the complete and absolute trust needed to be willing to wear one makes this a magnificent tool. Imagine, if you will, as the shade slips over your eyes, turning your vision to blackness. Perhaps you can move, more likely though, you cannot. Your hearing becomes more acute as you pick up on every little sound. You won't know what your lover is doing until he or she does it. Your skin tingles in anticipation and at the first touch upon your flesh, be it with a knife, a hand, an ice cube, hot wax, a clothespin or whatever your imaginations can dream up, you react instantly with a sharp intake of breath. Tactile sensations become poignant and are the sole focus once you are unable to see.

Earplugs

These link very, very nicely with blindfolds. For a true sensory deprivation experience, your options are substantial. On the one hand, you can go with the cheap memory foam earplugs found in most grocery or drug stores. There are industrial variants that are similar, and then there are the hoods that some sex shops sell. Intimidating yet finely crafted, these (usually leather, though other construction options are available) hoods provide both visual and auditory deprivation. Cutting ties to other senses besides sight serves only to heighten and prolong the experience.

Restraints

From silk scarves to saran wrap to wrist/ankle cuffs or industrial strength bungee cord, when you want to immobilize your partner, there are numerous options, depending on what you want to do and how comfortable your partner is with that particular kink. Many ankle/wrist cuffs come with metal D rings attached to which you can affix your binder of choice. Ultimately, the purpose of restraint is control. Direct your partner's sensations, which in turn lead to further enjoyment for both of you. From orgasm control to the most basic lack of simply being able to touch himself or herself or you, tying your partner up like an erotic Christmas gift can be a great deal of fun. As with any aspect of this sort of fun, safety is key. You must be sure not to cut off blood circulation, and in the case of saran wrap, the body loses its ability to breathe and release heat, so you have to keep your partner cool. When you remove it, the opposite will be true, so have a robe or blanket handy.

In addition to this modest list of physical options (modest, because there are numerous options besides these which you can experiment with to find out what you like), there are scenarios and ideas, which can further heighten the pleasure and joy both parties potentially experience. From conditioning - or honing your partner to get off by doing or wearing a certain thing (even in public) to dirty talking, to roleplay, your options are as boundless as your imagination. So long as you play it safe, and make sure your partner knows that you love him or her and will do right by him or her long after the welts and transient pains of want have faded, there's no end to what you can do.




Susan M is the owner of http://www.wealthybdsmdating.com where people can be free to explore their love of the BDSM lifestyle.





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2012年5月23日 星期三

Getting the Late Night Munchies


It is the complexity of the individual that is the key to food cravings, not simply a magical property of the food being craved' - (A. Hill)

Getting the Late Night Munchies

Do you find that no matter how committed you are to healthy eating or weight loss diets, there's a specific time each evening that you get the 'munchies'? And, that small square of chocolate or a biscuit or two does nothing to alleviate this craving?

Have you really stopped to think about this or do you just accept that this is the way it is? Because it doesn't have to be this way. If you have eaten sufficient nourishment during the day then a need for food is not what this is about...it rarely is in our society.

What is happening is that there is some other need, some psychological/emotional need that is not being met and because that need is going un-noticed, un-acknowledged or even denied, it is seeping out like water through a crack in a glass, and the more this need goes unmet, the emptier the glass gets, transforming itself into the dreaded 'munchies' or as is more commonly known in this profession - emotional eating or 'putting food on feelings'.

To get to the source of this need often takes some time and exploration but when you finally do acknowledge the true source of this need and take the appropriate steps to get it met then you will notice that the 'munchies' just disappear.

Hunger Vs Craving

Whilst both hunger and food cravings are caused by the release of certain chemicals in our body, the chemicals and the process of their release are completely different. Feelings of hunger are produced by the release of the hormone ghrelin when our blood sugar and insulin level drops, once we eat and these regulate, another hormone, leptin is released to suppress our appetite. Basically it is our body that is triggering the release of the hormones.

Cravings, on the other hand, are triggered more by the mind. They are much more complex and can be triggered through eating certain kinds of food, through sensory memories and through emotions.

Eating - Have you ever known anyone (other than pregnant women) to crave foods such as celery? Cravings through eating result from eating sugary or fatty foods which release a chemical called opiods into our bloodstream which give feelings of pleasure. The more you eat the more you want.

Sensory memories - this ranges from memories stored deep in the brain from when we were in the womb, to seeing a picture of a chocolate cake or a Macdonald's advert in a magazine. Sensory memories trigger a part of the brain that releases the hormone dopamine, also producing a feel good factor that has been described as similar to that of a drug addiction in that the more you feed this craving the more you need to keep your craving at bay.

Emotions - Studies on mood have found that our emotional state normally has a greater impact on cravings than hunger [source: Hill 2007]. What this means is that there is a direct correlation between our emotions and our cravings. The hormone seratonin, also known as the 'happy hormone' is released in response to balanced emotions, supporting our continued emotional stability. If our mood is low or negative then the release of seratonin is restricted and the higher the chance of us having cravings, especially if our diet too is not particularly healthy.

So you can see from this small excerpt how complex and individual cravings are and how, more often than not, it is cravings that get in the way of people maintaining a diet or healthy eating regime, especially in the early stages.

Tips on Dealing with Cravings:

1. Don't deprive yourself - a little of what you fancy, occasionally, will satisfy the craving.

2. Vary your diet - boredom and anxiety with what you're eating contributes to craving.

3. If you are someone that needs to snack then make sure that wherever you go you have some healthy snacks with you e.g. fruit, nuts

4. Less emotional stress and more balance in your life will not only reduce cravings but support you in maintaining a healthier diet.

5. The more fat your body has the more cravings you are likely to experience, losing body fat will reduce the cravings.

6. Become conscious of your cravings. When they occur sit and notice what's happening.

7. Journal about the cravings - How often do you get them? Is it a regular time/day? What triggers them? If you look deeper than the food, what is it that you are really craving for - what is the food a cover up for?

8. There are many factors to cravings - each are unique to you as an individual, working with a coach/therapist to explore yours will empower you to make better choices.




Jacqui has been coaching, counseling and educating women since 2002 and has recently led women's retreats in the U.K., Spain and the U.S.A.

She developed the Conscious Eating Program from her own experience of losing over 50lbs 4 years ago and keeping it off! She is an advocate of Self Responsibility for our own health & wellbeing and believes that eating good organic natural food, drinking spring water & daily yoga are key to her continuing slimness, good health and well being.

Visit [http://www.consciouseatingcoach.com] to apply for your complimentary coaching session or view http://consciouseatingcoaching.blogspot.com/ for up-to-date thoughts and tips for eating healthily.





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2011年12月4日 星期日

Getting the Late Night Munchies


It is the complexity of the individual that is the key to food cravings, not simply a magical property of the food being craved' - (A. Hill)

Getting the Late Night Munchies

Do you find that no matter how committed you are to healthy eating or weight loss diets, there's a specific time each evening that you get the 'munchies'? And, that small square of chocolate or a biscuit or two does nothing to alleviate this craving?

Have you really stopped to think about this or do you just accept that this is the way it is? Because it doesn't have to be this way. If you have eaten sufficient nourishment during the day then a need for food is not what this is about...it rarely is in our society.

What is happening is that there is some other need, some psychological/emotional need that is not being met and because that need is going un-noticed, un-acknowledged or even denied, it is seeping out like water through a crack in a glass, and the more this need goes unmet, the emptier the glass gets, transforming itself into the dreaded 'munchies' or as is more commonly known in this profession - emotional eating or 'putting food on feelings'.

To get to the source of this need often takes some time and exploration but when you finally do acknowledge the true source of this need and take the appropriate steps to get it met then you will notice that the 'munchies' just disappear.

Hunger Vs Craving

Whilst both hunger and food cravings are caused by the release of certain chemicals in our body, the chemicals and the process of their release are completely different. Feelings of hunger are produced by the release of the hormone ghrelin when our blood sugar and insulin level drops, once we eat and these regulate, another hormone, leptin is released to suppress our appetite. Basically it is our body that is triggering the release of the hormones.

Cravings, on the other hand, are triggered more by the mind. They are much more complex and can be triggered through eating certain kinds of food, through sensory memories and through emotions.

Eating - Have you ever known anyone (other than pregnant women) to crave foods such as celery? Cravings through eating result from eating sugary or fatty foods which release a chemical called opiods into our bloodstream which give feelings of pleasure. The more you eat the more you want.

Sensory memories - this ranges from memories stored deep in the brain from when we were in the womb, to seeing a picture of a chocolate cake or a Macdonald's advert in a magazine. Sensory memories trigger a part of the brain that releases the hormone dopamine, also producing a feel good factor that has been described as similar to that of a drug addiction in that the more you feed this craving the more you need to keep your craving at bay.

Emotions - Studies on mood have found that our emotional state normally has a greater impact on cravings than hunger [source: Hill 2007]. What this means is that there is a direct correlation between our emotions and our cravings. The hormone seratonin, also known as the 'happy hormone' is released in response to balanced emotions, supporting our continued emotional stability. If our mood is low or negative then the release of seratonin is restricted and the higher the chance of us having cravings, especially if our diet too is not particularly healthy.

So you can see from this small excerpt how complex and individual cravings are and how, more often than not, it is cravings that get in the way of people maintaining a diet or healthy eating regime, especially in the early stages.

Tips on Dealing with Cravings:

1. Don't deprive yourself - a little of what you fancy, occasionally, will satisfy the craving.

2. Vary your diet - boredom and anxiety with what you're eating contributes to craving.

3. If you are someone that needs to snack then make sure that wherever you go you have some healthy snacks with you e.g. fruit, nuts

4. Less emotional stress and more balance in your life will not only reduce cravings but support you in maintaining a healthier diet.

5. The more fat your body has the more cravings you are likely to experience, losing body fat will reduce the cravings.

6. Become conscious of your cravings. When they occur sit and notice what's happening.

7. Journal about the cravings - How often do you get them? Is it a regular time/day? What triggers them? If you look deeper than the food, what is it that you are really craving for - what is the food a cover up for?

8. There are many factors to cravings - each are unique to you as an individual, working with a coach/therapist to explore yours will empower you to make better choices.




Jacqui has been coaching, counseling and educating women since 2002 and has recently led women's retreats in the U.K., Spain and the U.S.A.

She developed the Conscious Eating Program from her own experience of losing over 50lbs 4 years ago and keeping it off! She is an advocate of Self Responsibility for our own health & wellbeing and believes that eating good organic natural food, drinking spring water & daily yoga are key to her continuing slimness, good health and well being.

Visit http://www.consciouseatingcoach.com to apply for your complimentary coaching session or view http://consciouseatingcoaching.blogspot.com/ for up-to-date thoughts and tips for eating healthily.





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2011年11月23日 星期三

Toys, Tricks and Tears: Getting the Most Out of Your BDSM Play


Whether you are merely on the fringes of the BDSM lifestyle, or it permeates the very fiber of your being and that of your partner/lover as well, there is something for everyone. New experiences and apparatuses to elicit wonderful and varied responses to heighten said experiences are just around the corner. Elation, even tears (of want and desire rather than pain or anguish, since sex should 'never' cause genuine harm) are a real chance with thoughtful, evocative sex play. Come with us, and we'll explore this winding road leading down into the depths of that sweet intoxicating blending of passion and pain.

Blindfolds and Sensation Play

For some, blindfolds are the quintessential addition to any D/s playtime. Sensory deprivation coupled with the sensory overload in other areas meshed with the complete and absolute trust needed to be willing to wear one makes this a magnificent tool. Imagine, if you will, as the shade slips over your eyes, turning your vision to blackness. Perhaps you can move, more likely though, you cannot. Your hearing becomes more acute as you pick up on every little sound. You won't know what your lover is doing until he or she does it. Your skin tingles in anticipation and at the first touch upon your flesh, be it with a knife, a hand, an ice cube, hot wax, a clothespin or whatever your imaginations can dream up, you react instantly with a sharp intake of breath. Tactile sensations become poignant and are the sole focus once you are unable to see.

Earplugs

These link very, very nicely with blindfolds. For a true sensory deprivation experience, your options are substantial. On the one hand, you can go with the cheap memory foam earplugs found in most grocery or drug stores. There are industrial variants that are similar, and then there are the hoods that some sex shops sell. Intimidating yet finely crafted, these (usually leather, though other construction options are available) hoods provide both visual and auditory deprivation. Cutting ties to other senses besides sight serves only to heighten and prolong the experience.

Restraints

From silk scarves to saran wrap to wrist/ankle cuffs or industrial strength bungee cord, when you want to immobilize your partner, there are numerous options, depending on what you want to do and how comfortable your partner is with that particular kink. Many ankle/wrist cuffs come with metal D rings attached to which you can affix your binder of choice. Ultimately, the purpose of restraint is control. Direct your partner's sensations, which in turn lead to further enjoyment for both of you. From orgasm control to the most basic lack of simply being able to touch himself or herself or you, tying your partner up like an erotic Christmas gift can be a great deal of fun. As with any aspect of this sort of fun, safety is key. You must be sure not to cut off blood circulation, and in the case of saran wrap, the body loses its ability to breathe and release heat, so you have to keep your partner cool. When you remove it, the opposite will be true, so have a robe or blanket handy.

In addition to this modest list of physical options (modest, because there are numerous options besides these which you can experiment with to find out what you like), there are scenarios and ideas, which can further heighten the pleasure and joy both parties potentially experience. From conditioning - or honing your partner to get off by doing or wearing a certain thing (even in public) to dirty talking, to roleplay, your options are as boundless as your imagination. So long as you play it safe, and make sure your partner knows that you love him or her and will do right by him or her long after the welts and transient pains of want have faded, there's no end to what you can do.




Susan M is the owner of http://www.wealthybdsmdating.com where people can be free to explore their love of the BDSM lifestyle.





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